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writes:i used to really like my friends gf. at one point i thought i loved her. were really good friends with each other better friends than i am with her bf. i thought she used to like me cause she always put hello you and things like that on fb when i say hi. she talked to me about her relationship problems with my friend etc. but now her and her bf are a bit better. i have stopped liking her in that way but i admitt there are still feelings there for her. we have spoken mostly online cause i live a bit away from her so we only see each other when i'm at college now and then and at mutual friends' parties. we spoke about once a week on fb but we have spoken for the past few days and i have helped her out as she is low onconfidence and her bf is on holiday. she always says im a really good person to talk to and shes lucky that she has someone like me to talk to. she also gave me her mobile number last night and we texted each other for about an hour after she went off fb. i don't want to ruin her and my friends relationship but does she like me? does she want to be more than friends? what do you guys think of this?
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reader, loveonce  +, writes (21 June 2011):
 Be there for her,hold on from your side,soon you will start getting clearer signs if there would be anything from her..but if not then remain in controlled friendship relation only
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): Whether she does or she doesn't you need to forget about her. She is your friends girlfriend, this would ruin not only their relationship but your friendship.Do not even question whether she is into you or not, nothing can ever happen. You are young, go out and meet other girls and maybe limit contact with her to give yourself time to loose the feelings you have for her.Good Luck.x
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (21 June 2011):
 It's possible there are two separate issues here - namely 1)does she like you and 2) should you do anything about it. Let's start with 1, I see no evidence she likes you as anything other than a very good friend. For example, I say 'hey you' to at least one really good friend. All of the other stuff is still well within the friend zone to be honest, saying your good to talk too is, I am sure, true, but it doesnt mean she wants to be with you which is something entirely different to confiding in somebody etc etc.You have to remember that you want something to be there because you have feelings for her and this will colour your view of what she does. Even if it were the case that she did like you, moving to number 2, I would strongly advise doing nothing about it. To say your playing with fire would be the understatement of the year. Maybe if their relationship were to end then you might revisit the question but in any case I am no way convinced she wants that from you. I am afraid, and I am sorry to say this because I can tell you care about her greatly, that there is nothing going to happen there; be the best friend you can and try and take some solace from the fact she is a big part of your life and always will be, just not quite in the way you would ideally want. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): I've been in a situation like this, where I talked to this guy about my relationship troubles and other things and even though my relationship didn't work out, I'm still good friends with this other guy who helped me a lot.
Now, I don't think she wants a lot more then just being friends. She's likely to think of you as a great friend that she really values and appreciates and she might even love you but just as friends. Especially now her relationship is getting better, I don't think she'll risk that... But of course, I can't read her mind and all women are different ;) the only way to know is to ask her but that might turn into an awkward talk and you might even risk your friendship so be careful with that and good luck (:
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