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writes: Dear Cupid,I have been with my fiance since 7.4.2000 and in this time he has been unfaithful once, but I have still allowed him in my life. I do love him, but I feel tired of supporting someone other than my 3 children (2 mine, 1 ours), whom is quite capable of getting a job, but he has no driver's licence. He has said to me and others that we will be getting married late 2006, so that our daughter can walk down the aisle with us. Does he really love me for me or my money/financial support? He has lately been masturbating, even when I quite accepting to sex. I feel as if I'm not good enough for him. Is it me thinking wrong or it is normal for a man 38yrs to still masturbate, while in a long-term relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): you know, when i seesome really great woman, with a loser, ithink there must be something to this looser that makes him great that i dont know about. but after reading your post, i am starting to think that these loosers are just finding dumb women willing to be used as a doormat.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (11 November 2005):
 First of all, men of all ages masturbate. The ones that say they don't are probably doing it twice as much as the ones that admit to it. If he is able to get and job and isn't because he is lazy then I would say get rid of him unless you like being taken advantage of. If rather than working outside the home, he is staying with your children then I would say maybe he is just interested in being a stay at home dad which is definitely work. You need to have a serious conversation with your man before you two tie the knot. You both need to know what is expected from the other, does he need to get a drivers license and get a job for you to be happy? Would he be willing to do that? Can you accept the responsibilities that come with being the "bread winner"? In the end you need to know how much you are willing to put up with and for how long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): Has your boyfriend ever hit you if you don,t trust him if you think he is only going out with you for your money then try and descide if you still want to marry him I hope you make the right descission :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): yeah he does he just thinking of his daughter thats all
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2005): It is normal for both men and women to masturbate. They even do it together, and watch each other so they can learn how to pleasure each other. If he is not working, is it only because he does not have a driver's license ? That sounds like a pretty poor excuse. You can get to a job if you really want to do so. He sounds like a drunk, who lost his license for driving while intoxicated, and he hasn't grown up, and still does not want to be responsible for anyone else. I don't see him as a good candidate for marriage. But, that is your decision. If his behavior bothers you, then talk to him about it. You are certainly entitled. When my second wife and I became lovers, and we decided that we wanted to continue having sex with each other, I sat her down next to me on the bed, and took her hand and put it over my family jewels. I told her these were hers to play with anytime, anywhere, as often as she wanted them. They were hers. She then took my hand and put it on her pussy, and gave me her pussy to play with it. Sounds hokey, but ever after, she felt no reservations about grabbing those jewels, and treating them as if she owned them. If you think of his jewels the same way, why would you not have the right to ask him why he is masturbating rather than find you and asking you to play with Your jewels?
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