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*ittle_Kitten
writes:This guy was my best friend of 5 years and my boyfriend for 2 of those years. Recently he and I stopped talking cause he randomly got engaged to a girl he has only known for a month and a half. (Personally I don't think they're gonna make it) My thing is...if you're SO in love with this girl...why constantly text your ex(ME)? He texts me wishing me a Happy New Year and he knew I wasn't going to respond. He'll also send me love type chain texts and I also think he's trying to call me from different numbers and getting his friends to call me.... He called a friend of mine...that lives all the way in NEW YORK! The only time he talked to this guy was when I was around he never talks to this guy so why is he calling him now??...then he called my best friend...telling her to tell me hi and wanting her to hang out with him...I told neither of my friends to answer or text back whenever he does...but now...HE'S CALLING ME!!! I'm sure I told him goodbye and that I was moving on....my friend says he might be rethinking his decision and he wants me back around...but as long as he's engaged...that won't happen...I'm pissed at him...I think if he's so in love with this girl to get engaged to her then she's all he needs. I don't know what he is up to...can someone help me please??...
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reader, Little_Kitten +, writes (29 January 2009):
Little_Kitten is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I don't think I'm being harsh. He doesn't love her at least not in my opinion. He's already cheated on her 4 different times. As for tying up loose ends, I already did that, he was my loose end. When I was with him just to be plainly hanging out, he'd tell her he wasn't with anyone and that he was at home with his "mother" when he was at my place spending time with me. I asked him why was he lying to her? and he just replyed with "because I can." I told him... that I couldn't be his friend anymore because I loved him so much...I still do....but this was the final straw of all of his antics...the only reason he's callin my friends is to contact me cause I haven't been answering my phone...they're his last resort to talk to me again...but as along as that girl is in his life...There is no friendship between him and I...
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (28 January 2009):
 I think he is trying to tie up any loose ends before he takes the plunge. People tend not to want to open up any windows before ensuring all the doors are closed. He is maybe looking for closure, or wants u by his side as the friend you once were. I think u are being a bit harsh , as much as i agree that getting engaged after a month of knowing someone is a bad idea, because love is love and you cannot help who or when it happens with. Just talk to him over the phone, say hi and ask straight out what he wants but dont be mean. Maybe he does want you back, maybe he has realized that he only ever wants u and this girl hes with now was just means to fill the hole in his heart since u left? Just talk to him. If it doesnt work out u never have to see him again except maybe the odd time walking down the street.
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