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writes:Me and my boyfriend of 6 months broke up a week ago due to him believing I was ignoring him when I was in fact just giving him the space that he wanted.Things were really awkward during the first few days, we never talked, never looked at each other, kept a well distance. But deep inside I still love him, yes he may of treated me less than a boyfriend should but I don't care. He was my first boyfriend and I still love him. The question is, is that I'm wondering if he's regretting ending it and still has feelings for me. I mean, today at school I was messing around with a close friend who is in fact his best friend. And he came over to see what was happening, my mate got me down to the floor and started dragging me (its our way of being stupid) and my ex just stared at me and knelt down to tickle my legs. Usually he just keeps a distance. And then at dinner I started messing around with my mate again and all of a sudden I felt two hands on my back, I turned round to see my ex standing there and moving me to the side so he could stand next to our mate. Things got out of control when we started a poke war and my ex started poking me, I of course poked him but he grabbed my hand before I could and he just stared at my hand. It was really weird, it felt like we were still going out. And then at the end of school when I was saying goodbye to my friends, my ex and our mate walked over to me and our mate started the poke war again, this time before I could poke him back my ex started fooling around and ninja attacked me (we always did it when we were going out). I'm quite confused about the way he's been acting lately. I don't know if he still does have feelings for me and he wants to re-ignite the relationship. Does it sound like he is?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (12 October 2010):
Hi there. It seems clear that he does at least still see you as a friend, so that's something.
He might not want to get serious in a relationship yet though.
You still play with each other poking and playing ninja, so I don't think he would do that if he didn't have some feelings for you still.
He might even realize that you still have feelings for him, so in his own way, is trying to at least make contact with you again, by the poking and ninja games you play. At the very least, it's a bit of an ice breaker.
When two people like each other, they look at each other, hold the gaze for a few seconds then look away. Then a few minutes later, do it again - and perhaps smile this time. When you are in the same room or at least in the view of each other, try doing this a couple of times. Do this for a few days. This shows him that you are still interested as much as you were before. The rest is up to him.
After the looking and smiling thing, then a couple of days later, perhaps in between classes, when you see him, just walk over to him and say hi, smile and ask him how his day has been. That's a good start. Just see how it goes.
And when you do talk to him, just say straight out what you said in your question here about giving him space, and that your feelings haven't changed. Say that you thought you might have been crowding him before, and that's why you decided to give him some space. Just be honest.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Well its possible he may still want you back or maybe he just wants to remain friends am afraid that me or anybody else on this cant answer that question. Its only him that can answer it.
So just ask him straight out, tell him you werent ignoring him that you were just giving him space and that you want to still be with him because you still have feelings for him.
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