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writes:well this might take long so bare with me. my ex dumped me 7 months ago because she thought i was being a bit pushy towards her. but then 2 days after when she dumped me she started going out with someone else and i was hoping it would be a rebound and i think it was. because one of my friends says to me my ex hasn't gotten over me and has not really moved on and i think she was trying to make me jealous because she kept showing me what her new boyfriend had been texting her and what their plans for the weekend were. i was really jealous and upset but when i tried to forget about her i went out with a couple of friends and met a girl who was really nice so i asked her out so i could move on and forget about my ex but when my ex found out she was surprised she asked me if my new girlfriend was better than her and i could see that she was jealous and the funny part was my ex wanted to meet my new girlfriend and wanted to be friends with her and said to me she still loves me as a friend so my ex tried to make plans to see me and my new girlfriend in town but her boyfriend would be there aswell but i dint really want to meet her so i made something up by saying I am busy. she even asked me if i wanted to go the cinema with her and her new boyfriend and i am thinking what the hell. but then my new girlfriend dumped me because she had feeling for someone else and i was left gutted. and i told my ex about it and i think she did feel sorry for me. my ex and her new boyfriend went out for 1 month and 2 weeks but then the new boyfriend dumped her because she was too clingy towards him. when i found out i was very happy because i still had feelings for my ex and i thought i might have a chance of getting back. but then she moved down south with her dad because she got fed up living where she was and i said to her that i still loved her and she texted me back saying i am not getting back with u and i don't love u and didn't want me to contact her but then she texted me saying if i had msn and i said yeah but i didn't understand why she didn't want me to contact her but she i contacting me. and all of a sudden she kept texting me and telling me to go on msn everyday and it was getting a bit annoying. and she asked me if i still loved her but i replied do u still love me and she said it was difficult to dumping me but loves me as a friend and she might find someone else. and i asked her why she said if i still loved her she replied just wondering.then i said to her i still love you and she said well i don't but i know she was lying because my friend told me that she still has feelings for me and wants me back and she still ha feelings for the other guy who dumped her. when the summer holidays came i was talking to her on msn and she kept telling me to put web cam on and she even asked me if i have a girlfriend and i said no and she said i am still single and she also said i miss you. and 2 weeks after that i said to her that i miss you but then she texted me saying i don't want to go back out with you and that she has always trusted everyone else and she doesn't miss me it was so weird because she just said to me that she misses me. then a month later when i got a job i met a nice girl and started going out with her and i was forgetting about my ex. but when my ex found out she sounded surprised and kept asking how we met and then kept contacting me every day and she even wanted me to send a picture of my new girlfriend but i didn't do it. i was ignoring my ex calls and texts and she thought i had changed my number. i dumped my girlfriend because she was cheating on me behind my back and i told my ex. my ex got me a birthday card for my birthday which was nice and i got her one for her birthday. and all the time my ex kept asking me if i have met someone else i said no and she kept saying she is still single but tells me she is not ready for a boyfriend yet. but one night my girlfriend that i dumped wanted me back and i said ok but when my ex found out she was wanting to be friends with my girlfriend and 2 days after that i was talking to her on msn and she kept saying she was fed up of being single but why would she say this now when she has found out that i am back with my girlfriend and she started becoming angry with me and she told me to leave her alone but i am not bothering her because every time i am on msn she is the one who talks to me. i need someones opinion is she jealous cause of my new relationship and cause she might still have feelings for me because why would she say she hates being single when she found out about my relationship does she still want me back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2009): woman like to have a lot of things and that includes guys they have connections with. but the most important things is that alot of girls are greedy and dont want any other girl to have whats theirs. woman like to own things and that is what she is doing to you. Let her go man and stop talking to her. Its clear she doesnt know what she wants and its not going anywhere by talking to you all this time. Let it go and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): thankyou for the advice i dont need it anymore iam really happy now
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reader, Candleman  +, writes (13 October 2009):
 Hey bro, I think you should reconsider the reason that she broke up with you. To go out w/ someone so soon after the breakup usually means that this other person was the cause of the breakup. There are two things that you need to consider here. The first is that she did break up with you. Whether it was for someone else or not really doesn't matter too much, the most important fact is that her feelings for you were not strong enough to keep her in the relationship. The other thing is that instead of working to get back with you or staying close to the area she ends up moving down south. That is an even bigger indication that her feelings for you are not very strong. Hell, she even told you that she didn't love you. That is huge right there. She says to not contact her initially, but then changes her mind and starts contacting you. Here is what it seems like to me. She is very unsure about being with you. Very unsure to the point that deep down she really doesn't want to be with you. This explains her past actions. However, you provide a safety net in which she knows that she at least has you if nothing else can come along.She's scared of losing this safety net because nothing else has come along. Here is where you risk yourself bigtime if you get back with her.If someone else comes along or if the feelings die out again (which seems like it wouldn't be too hard for them to die out) you're back in this same situation. You have to use extreme caution in interpreting her actions at this point because she moved down south and is probably not yet adjusted to living there. She is probably bored and lonely and you fill this void in her life. This is a temporary state of mind for her. If I were you, I would let her get adjusted to living down south to make sure she just isn't lonely and that is the reason she would want to get back together. It seems like she needs to go and experience more with other people in order for her to truly understand if her feelings for you are strong enough to stay with you. I definitely would not have a long distance relationship with her. You really set yourself up with in this scenario. In fact, my advice to you would be to move on at this time of your life and try to find someone that won't be so unsure of themseves in regards to you. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2009): Hi
You sound like a man who jumps into a relationship too quickly. Read your post, you attract all the wrong sort of girls. (Seriously, just read your post).
Next time (or this time if it lasts) please,be careful about who you trust with your feelings. There are too many women who have left you or cheated on you, and I think that it is because you attract the wrong sort of attention. So, first think about your standards of choosing a girl, then make sure that you are nice and caring and loving, get it?
And, it is not healthy to go on jumping from one relationship to another and you should not date another person after 2 days of breaking up! Really, you will have a lot of emotional complications in the future.
AS for this ex of yours, well, she is not interested in you for anything except to keep you hanging around her. It perhaps feeds her ego that you come running after her and when she sees you with someone else she cannot take it. So, really, don't take her seriously. And if you still have feelings for her then deal with them, alone. Not by dating other women... it never helps in the long run.
I know that I have been quite strict with you, but that is because I care about you and your well being.
Best of Luck :)
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