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Does my ex have regrets?

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Question - (11 March 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 11 March 2009)
A male Ireland age 41-50, *ell-me-more writes:

I'm in an emotional dilemma and I'd like to hear ladies viewpoints.

I met a women 6 years ago and we had a 3 month relationship. We first met in a cafe in town. For weeks we did the eye contact thing before we started chatting. It was flirting at its best. We didn't last,in fact it was a right car crash.

A year after we split, she phoned and her first words we " I don't want you back, I want to talk". We chatted a while. Then 1 month later she texted saying " I want closure, and again added I don't want you back. Eventually we stopped texting.

We didn't see much of each other for 4 years, and if we met, we'd say hello in the passing and that was that. She's in an on-off relationship and has a 2 year old daughter.

But May last year, she approached me ( in the same cafe we'd met in ) and says " I still have feelings for you, a bit of me will always love you. But I don't want you back" Now, here's the scary bit.She wanted to name her daughter with same name as my wife ( but didn't ) Can't believe I went through her mind as she was in a materity ward. ( I got hitched last summer )

I put the whole saga out my mind but since Dec she's in the same cafe on a v regular basis now. We both seem to know that Mon and Fri at 5pm we'll be there. And the whole eye contact thing is very obvious. She'll sneak a glance, say hi, even if her boyfriend is there. He's picked up on it I'm sure.

It's hit me like a train that I fancy her rotten and still miss her. But I have a lovely wife and wouldn't risk my marriage for her. So now I'm steering clear for a while.

My unanswered questions are...

1 Is the eye contact innocent, or windows to the soul?

2. The big speech back in May, was she sounding me out or just unloading her feelings?

3 Three times she's said " I don't want you back" Does she mean it or has she given herself away? Personally, if I didn't want someone back in my life I wouldn't feel the need to tell them.

Your thoughts please

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009):

Wow. If you do love your wife, keep working on your marriage and avoid the other woman.

She seems to play games and all I could see happening is you cheating on your wife but nothing happening with the other girl. This will just cause problems...

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