Does my ex have any feelings at all towards me? or is she indifferent now?

A male age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I was in a relationship with my ex for nearly 5 years. We met as friends but she was married and I had a crush on her, but obviously did not want her to know that. She was in a bad relationship with a guy she loved who she believed cheated on her. This was her second marriage in less than 3 years. She asked me to go to a resort overnight (we were just close friends before) and we slept together. After that I wanted to get more into a relationship with her, but she wasn't sure because she was still married to the guy. I understood, but made sure she knew what I wanted. We kept our relationship secret for nearly a year until after the divorce, then about 5 months later after being together we made it official. We did everything together, yet she was in control of the relationship, I was moderately okay with it. She told me originally she didn't want to go from frying pan to frying pan, and that we need to take it slow. I was of course really ready for a relationship but understood and started to back off slowly. About 2 years into our relationship she started telling me I needed my own life and not to get so deep into hers. So I did, and I thought things were going well. She pushed me for months to propose, and I even paid for a vacation for us to europe. I had a custom made ring made for her that was expensive and exactly what she wanted. I felt that things were going well, and she was very happy, and everyone thought we were a great couple. This year, things never were great, we fought alot, and couldn't agree on things for the impending wedding. She started to back off and started seeing another guy behind my back (told me he was just a friend, but he was staying with her at her place) and of course I caught on and was not happy. I blew up one night after she lied and asked for the rings back. I loved her much, and wanted to work on things, but she was unsure. We stayed in contact, and 2 months later, we started to get back together. Everything was really great until she left to go to school. I went to visit and she was not into me like earlier, and I already felt something wasnt right. I tried to keep in contact, but she kept telling me she was too busy and eventually told me she was done because she wasn't into any relationship and was just too busy to care. I also told her I was done too, and that I wished her well. That was 2 months ago. I was devistated but knew that I was not going to be able to keep it going long-distance anyway. About a month later I heard from a friend she was dating a professor, and madly in love with him, and that he was everything she ever wanted and was the happiest in her life. Of course that was 2 weeks ago, and I'm still very disapointed and starting to wonder if I ever ment anything to her. She is back in town, (we live about 3 blocks away in a small town) and shes called me twice in a week, but I can't answer or reply, I just not sure what to do.

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