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writes:http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-common-for-crossdressers-to-have-multiple.html Dear Cupid, I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years within the first 3 or 4 months of our relationship I knew that he was hiding something so I preceded in Prying it out of him. I kind of had an idea about what was going on but I never knew anyone that was a cross dresser before at least on a romantic level. At first it was nothing that I was used to but I was okay with giving it a shot I participated we got dressed up together shared lingerie that kind of stuff. I had found a few pictures and emails in his phone that were questionable but I guess I never put two and two together once I realized what was going on and Caught him hooking up with people from Craigslist I didn't know what to do he would blame it all on this other person that he becomes when he gets dressed up. this woman he becomes is extremely envious of me she steals my clothes she ruins my clothes we have had many arguments over the fact that my favorite things get destroyed anything that she sees me and she knows I feel good in Or sexy she wants to wear it Herself and as soon as she gets a chance to take it from me and wear it when I'm not around she does. Shes bigger than me so all of the seems get ripped out. None of my bras fit right anymore. I have moved everything that I care about out of his house. When I confront him with my ruined clothes he completely denies it he's so assistive about the fact that he had nothing to do with it I don't know if he's just totally lying to me or if this other person that he becomes is actually someone else inside of him like a multiple personality.I guess my main question is is this possible could this be a case of a multiple personality where my boyfriend loves and cares about me but this woman inside of him really hates me for being a woman and loves the fact that it's so hurtful when she cheats on me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (9 November 2014):
Dear OP,
Whether or not he has this disorder.. the question is: Do you want to live like that? I mean, I don't believe what he says but even if it was true, the question is do you want to live with somebody who has a part in himself that hates and envies you. Don't you think you could do better than that? Don't you think you deserve to be loved instead of hurt? Why are you doing this to yourself and trying to understand him?
It means that part of himself, splitted or not, has huge issues with the fact that you're a woman and that he's not. How can you be happy with somebody like that? Even if there's 2 people inside his body and that's sad.. one of those people hates you, so a relationship is nearly impossible, even if you feel sorry for the first one (still.. I don't believe in this theory).
Look, he may or may not love you. But I think that he should have gone to a therapist long time ago, if he was this troubled. I think it would be his responsibility to try and be the best possible boyfriend he can be. If he realizes that - unconsciously or not - he's hurting you, he should try harder to change that. All in all, I think he doesn't care for you as much as he should. Maybe it's because he is mentally ill, maybe it's because he's just a selfish person. The result is the same: You are not in a happy relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2014): Why are you confronting him about your ruined clothes when you know he's trolling Craigslist for casual sex with random strangers?
Why are staying with him when you know he's trolling Craigslist for casual sex with random strangers?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 November 2014):
 No.
People already answered your question. Asking it again doesn't change facts. Who not go look at the original answers?
Him putting on WOMEN'S clothes doesn't give him MPD or make it OK to cheat.
He cheats because he can'ts and wants.
If he has these blackout, it's more likely from drugs/alcohol then multiple personality disorder.
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