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writes:I would like to ask peoples opinions on what you consider to be too much drinking when it comes to your bf/gf?My bf is a really great guy, his drinking is mainly while watching hockey with the boys, which doesn't bug me. It's about how much/how often. His typical is he drinks about 3 nights/week..and on these nights he's typically 5-10 drinks I'd say. He doesn't really drink when I'm around because he knows that I don't really drink and when he does I never have noticed any change in personality til this past weekend. My eye opener was when we went to a sporting event out of town. At lunch he had 2 beers, at the game he had 5 beers, then we went out to get something to eat after and he had 3 more. That was the 1st time I've seen him drunk. He spent almost $100 on booze in 1 night. While drunk he made a comment that bugged me too. His cousin mentioned how it's smart that I don't drink to which he said "Well even when she's sober and I drink I'm still the smarter one" --but he literally realized what he said right away and apologized saying it came out wrong. He felt bad which made me realize he at least caught what he said. However the next day when I asked him about he couldn't remember. He said he recalled saying something not nice but couldn't for the life of him remember what it was. He did feel really bad about it though when I told him what he said. He said he wouldn't drink to that extent again and that he would be more careful.Anyways I just want to know if this is ok when it comes to alcohol consumption? I just wonder if I am out of line because I compare him to myself as a person who very rarely drinks at all. Would you say he is just 1 of the guys who likes to social drink with his friends? Or is it a little too much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): I think he is drinking too much and it may be just a social thing now, but eventually he may start drinking to just numb out or because he is developing a dependency on alchohol. The fact that he drinks to that extent when out is immature and impulsive...I hope he doesn't drive when he does that because then he will be in worse problems if he gets caught or worse kills someone.
He is showing a poor financial habits by spending so much on drinks in one night...do you really want to hitch your wagon to someone like this?
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reader, ~darkfairyprincess~  +, writes (9 February 2010):
That is a bit much. I mean he's young and if he wants to drink on the weekends I don't see a problem. But more than three times a week... That sounds like he may have or may be developing a drinking problem. I would talk to him about it. Tell him you are worried about him and ask him to cut down on the alcohol. If he won't do that for you then maybe it is time to move on. One thing about alcoholism is if you don't do something about it, it will only get worse. As for the comment he made...I wouldn't worry about that too much. Sometimes people say stupid stuff when they drink.
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