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writes:I seem to have let love slip away. Now I feel no love or respect for my husband. I am ready to leave but feel that it is worth it to try to get it back. Does marriage counseling (or one of these highly advertised alternatives that you can order) really help? Can it really make me gain back some respect for him? Can there be a fire without a spark?
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reader, xx-miss-cupid-xx  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Hey x
Marriage counselling is a great option. If both of you are committed to it, then it's even better. If you need to go alone then it's OK too. It helps you a lot so I highly recommend you go.
You have to be open and speak the truth. If you can do that then you should definately attend.
Good luck and I hope your marriage works out!
Cara -x-
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): Yes, if *both* partners are commited to the relationship. I've had some relationship counseling training and was quite surprised at how great some techniques and ideas are.
In the UK we have a charity called Relate, it provide counselling and they have written superb guides on marriage, you pay be able to purchase them from http://www.relate.org.uk/ and have them shipped to Canada :)
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (19 January 2007):
 The only way to find out if councelling works if by trying it. It does work for some people and it is recommended by most.
Councelling alone is not enough though, all it does is encourage more communication between partners.
This you can try today!
It is very important talk to one another and share your feelings, good and bad.
Remember your good times together and what made you fell in love in the first place.
Hope things work out.
Good luck x
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 I am currently in counseling. He hasn't attended. I have learned coping mechanisms, have been referred to great self-help books, and have been able to talk to someone honestly about my relationship in counseling. I think it could be going much better than it is. Maybe, that's b/c I'm in it all alone. He hasn't refused to come with me but it's darn impossible for him to come since he is only home 6 days a month. It's my last ditch effort to try and save my marriage. You should give it a try. You may surprise yourself. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2007): You sound as though you're quite jaded in your marriage. Most of us go through this, and most of us come out the other end happy again. Maybe marriage counselling will help, but you have to be open to it for it to have any chance of working for you.
It almost seems like you want something external to sort your life our. A lot of the effort is going to have to come from within yourself. You have to want it to work, and you have to want to make the effort it will require.
You don't give us any details about your marriage, and so it's hard to judge what may help you. Keep an open mind, and be willing to put in some work to make yourself happy again.
Good luck.
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