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writes:I'm a popular guy and I've never had trouble getting girlfriends. And whenever I want a girlfriend I always make sure I get a pretty one.But I'm worried if this makes me shallow. I'm scared that if I get married to a woman she'll grow old and I won't be able to keep loving her after she starts looking older. How can I know if I'll be strong enough for that! Does love mature when you get married or does dating pretty girls just set you up for dissappointment? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): as we get older we tick lots of different boxes when looking for a suitable partner and the way they look only accounts for a small part of it, but trust me you will learn to love every laugh line cos you know it was u making her smile and every stretch mark that appeared as she carried your children, you will love the maturity and good sense that goes with loving an equal partner and when her hair turns grey yours may too if your lucky enough to have any left lots of things take over with real love and it continues to deepen as each day goes by it doesnt diminish, my advice dont get married you are a long way from being ready for it x
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reader, MissWendlemoot  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 It is probably normal at your age as you are still immature.
Like the other poster said, you are going to get old too; maybe balding and wrinkly.
I think if I was going to spend 50 years with someone, I would make the most important thing is that we get along very well, have similar values, and enjoy each other's company.
If you have a pretty girl with the personality of a rock, that is going to get really old fast.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Looks can certainly be an important part of a relationship, but when you find someone who you love, as opposed to a girlfriend with whom you might go on a date or two, you will realise that there are far more important things which attract you to a partner. I imagine your tastes will mature when you meet the right person, but yes, your current attitude does seem a little shallow to me.......
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