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writes:Does losing your virginity to a boyfriend/girlfriend make one more clingy to them? Specifically to the guys, were you more attached to the girl you lost your virginity to, assuming you were in a relationship? I ask because my current boyfriend lost his virginity to me last week and I'm just curious as to how it might affect him. I wasn't a virgin and thus it wasn't exactly the same. It was special and I believe everyones first time with a new partner is different and has the potential to feel super special. Just curious. Reply to this Question
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reader, N91  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 I'd say yes to your question. Personally I did - it wasn't with a girlfriend, it was a fwb and I got in way too deeply and she didn't feel the same for me.
I don't think I'd of been attached to her if we didn't have sex, but yeah I think I became pretty clingy towards her afterwards.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Well women have more of an attachment to men following sex, men dont really experience the same release of hormones that women get after sex. So I would not say he is going to be massively more attached to you than he was before.
Maybe he will feel a bit closer to you - but it wont be anything like what you felt when you lost your virginity to a guy.
Women release hormones after sex (regardless if its the first time or not) that are designed to make them feel closer to the man and want to make the bond stronger. This is from evolution, where women needed men to look after them and provide for them, and having sex used to lead to babies, and a woman with a baby needed to be looked after by a man. Whereas men dont have these hormones, they are designed to 'sow their seed' so to speak (basically have sex with as many partners as possible to increase the chances of reproducing).
So as you can see, men dont feel the same way about sex as women do. Yes it can be special for them, and if it is with the woman they love it will be a special experience. But nowhere near the feelings women have after sex.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 August 2011):
 Depends on the person, but in general I would say yes, that guys do get more attached to their girlfriend after they've had sex, especially if it was their very first time. But how this attachment shows is unclear, for some it can mean they get clingy, for others it can mean they grow stronger feelings, or others again you wont be able to tell a difference.
Just treat him nice and like you'd treat a boyfriend, he doesn't need special attention or anything, just for you to be a good girlfriend.
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