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writes: Hello.Just wondering what everybody thinks.My boyfriend is a group fitness instructor at a gym.I take part in some of his classes sometimes. What I noticed is that he has looked at an attractive blonde who is at the front of his class and he has exchanged smiles with her. He does know her as she works at the gym.Should I be concerned he is interested in her and maybe carrying on with her? Because they exchange some looks and smiles while he is conducting the fitness class?Why do I worry so much about it? And why would he do this in front of his girlfriend? Does it not seem insensitive??Am I making it a big deal or do I have reason to worry and maybe just move on?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 September 2013):
 I agree with SVC Smiling at a student (I'm betting you the blond isn't the only one he smiles at in class, just the one you are focused on).
There HAS something else going on, I would guess, because him smiling at a pretty blond makes you think you should move on?
When he teaches he is just that A TEACHER, it's NOT about your relationship. It's about helping others reach their goals, doing the right moves, keeping them motivated.
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reader, GentleGiant  +, writes (25 September 2013):
I believe that he has to smile in the nature of his business.He cant be carrying a poker face all day. Smiling doesn't mean anything. I cannot understand why you are worried other than this woman is better looking than you and your relationship with this man is not rock solid. If that is partly true then you better work on your relationship. It is true there is always somebody that would be willing to move in on your man especially if you do not have a strong cemented relationship right now. Let me give you one example. When i am out with my girlfriend and there is a woman who makes eye contact and smiles at me i put on the lady Gaga poker face and just nod and move on ward. I know this bothers my girlfriend and i dont want to upset her over a smile or friendly acknowledgment from a strange woman. I know my sweetheart well enough and this approach keeps piece. And let me tell you sleeping on the couch for a week is no fun and getting the cold shoulder treatment is not nice either. Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2013): When I go to classes at the gym, the instructor would sometimes look me in the eye as an acknowledgement that he/she has noticed that I am putting the hard work in (which may add to their ego, as they feel they are doing a good job), and then smile as some sort of encouragement to keep going. He already has you in his class and would hope that you are enjoying it too. What did you expect him to do? tell the class that you are in the room, and they need to be aware of your feelings? If I was him and you told him what you tell us, I would think "why do I bother, introducing her to what I do, when she finds fault in it".
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 September 2013):
 I smile at folks all the time... a smile during a class is an encouragement to keep working
it's his JOB to make the class fun and keep the members coming
you are way over thinking this.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 September 2013):
Smiling is innocent.
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