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writes:much fun. I met all his family and friends. After about 4 months we were practically living together. Until one day, I felt that something wasn't right. I found out this the was on a dating website. I walked out and we didn't talk for a while. Then we talked and got together one night and when we saw each other we couldn't let go of each other!! We started to see each other again. But he said he doesn't want a relationship. He said he wants to see his kids, me, friends and date. It makes me feel like I am not good enough..I really care and him and he says he has very strong feelings fore me too. So we keep dating and having great times.But it is just getting to painful to know that he is with me and then out with other girls. So I told him, it hurts too much to know that he is looking!! His reaction was We both Definitely need some space!! Was I know to tell him that and not keep going along with it the way he wants it? Is it too late for the No Contact Rule in this case?Does it really work? It is just so difficult to be in a relationship today. With all of websites and divorces!! Nobody wants it anymore. Did I do the right thing by letting him go?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (30 July 2014):
 You had to let him go so you can move on to a relationship where your valued as an equal partner where your both on the same page.
As soon as you became attached to this man he let go, he wants his freedom but you want a one to one exclusive relationship.
Yes dating is hard but he let you go so you can find what 'you' want
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2014): He is placing you in the friend-zone. You're the faithful and reliable female he can depend on; when his other dates dry up. The wonderful gal he can trust and always make him feel cared for. Just not enough to commit to.
Maintain your dignity, and reconsider if you really want to be "just a friend." Why not just move on, and find someone who will treat you as you want to be treated? There will be a time-gap before that happens. That would be your healing and reconstruction period. Time to take care of yourself, avoid boyfriend-drama, and get your life back. Weigh the pros and cons, and figure out what's best for YOU!
It is very hard to let-go of someone you really care for.
You don't settle for accepting crumbs of affection, or their pity. You use that as fuel to motivate you to find something better.
Don't use "no contact;" if you think it is a tool to make him miss you, and come crawling back. It is what you do to cut yourself off. In order to move on, and regain your freedom from being in a rut. When you are no longer happy being with someone; because he gives you more pain than joy.
It works, but it just isn't easy to do. The reward comes when you are over your addiction for the guy, you've broken his hold, and you realize your own strength and power. When you realize that your happiness is actually in your own hands; and it is not something you expect to receive from anyone else.
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