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writes:I was just reading someone else's question where the girl had kissed him and he thought that meant they should be in a relationship afterwards...is that how many other people think also? Because I've been seeing a guy over the last few months, we've had around 5 or so kissing sessions (for want of a better name) but I thought we had to have a conversation (which we haven't) about what we both want etc before we started thinking relationships? He's a really sweet guy so I don't want to hurt him, but I'm not sure if a relationship would work between us. I'm also enjoying being single right now after an abusive relationship I ended last year. I like to go out, to flirt with people, I need that right now.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Kissing doesnt mean you are in a relationship, a kiss is just a kiss until you have deeper feelings for each other. Normally you would have a talk about where you were headed to decide if it really was a full on relationship or not.
But it sounds here like you are not ready for a relationship so it might be worth just making sure he is clear on that. As long as you are honest with him from the start and he knows where he stands that is all that matters.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): NO, kissing does not equate to a relationship and more than if you sleep with someone does. Relationships are interactions between people. If you want an exclusive relationship that takes conversation & committment.
One can date multiple people at the same time, and can kiss them all - if one is sleeping with multiple people at the same time, that can be OK too, but everyone invovled shouldn't ASSUME that they're in an exculsive relationship w/o having a firm committment, and even then for the purposes of safer sex shouldn't assume too much.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (13 August 2009):
 you have to have that talk because otherwise you could be dating 10 people at once lol.. their needs to be communication to have a relationship thats what its mostly about. take your time getting to know you better before expecting someone else to. some do think that but you cant assume these things and if someone really likes you they will be hot on your heels and asking you out. hope this helps aphex
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reader, rosie-rouge +, writes (13 August 2009):
 I think because of what you've said about the no conversation part, it sounds more like a hook up, than a relationship. But sometimes, kisses can lead to relationships, but sometimes they can just be like a fling type of thing so you're "seeing" that person.
I think you need to make it clear to the guy that you're not ready or don't want a relationship right now. Tell him straight up, no lies or anything, just the truth :)
Good luck,
Rosie-Rouge
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