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writes:This girl told me my boyfriend had cheated on me with her in her car. He denied every bit of it (there has been several rumors of him cheating) so I told him to call the girl in front of me so I know he wasn't lying, well he refused to do that. Everyone has told me it was true, she even gave me full details about them having sex. I texted this girl acting like my boyfriend and talking about the sex and she thought it really was him and said he needed to tell me. She also told me the condoms he used (trojan her pleasure) and they were the same ones he used on me. Does it sound like he cheated?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 yes sorry but it really does sound like he's cheated.
i can see why a girl might lie, so you will break up withy your BF so she can have him.
i cannot see why your friends/acquaintances would lie
and i can DEFINITELY see why your boyfriend would lie, he doesn't want to be caught for what he did.
you did the right thing in asking him to ring the girl in front of you. the fact that he REFUSED to do call someone who is spreading 'lies' about him even though it jeopardises your relationship - well that speaks volumes doesn't it?
and when you texted her pretending you were him - if there had been no sex between them then why on earth would she feel the need play along with the conversation??
you seem a very clued up young lady and it is good that you have done a bit of your own detective work rather than just take the word of other people. i think you KNOW the answer deep down don't you? and i know it is not the answer you want but you are gonna have to accept it and see him for what he is. don't waste any more time on him, if you stick with him you will be passing up opportunities to meet someone who is capable of keeping it in their pants, also now that he has destroyed your trust that would make for a very miserable and insecure relationship if you choose to carry on with it
best wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): Yep. It sounds like he cheated. The people who have nothing to gain or lose by telling you have told you. The one person who has the most to lose denies it. While I don't automatically jump to believe every rumour, when enough people are talking about an incident, I tend to sit up and take notice.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 June 2011):
 Yes! This man sounds like a cheater!
Complete strangers rarely call you up and tell your your boyfriend has cheated, then go on to give you details. Also, he wouldn't have refused to call her to prove it wasn't true.
When a man is caught cheating, the first reaction is to deny it at all costs.
If the denial game doesn't play well, he'll turn to blaming you for "driving him" into doing it. Keep pressure on him, or leave him as he sounds untrustworthy.
One random rumor is one thing, to have several rumors should ring alarm bells, and when the girl on the side gives you a call you should open your eyes to the truth.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 June 2011):
 Yes it does !
But even without all the details, think : why a random girl should invent a story like this ?
What for ? Does she hate you, does she hate your BF, is she a certified loony ? No ? .. Then, she has no reason to lie.
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