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writes:Hi! I am in an intersting situation at the moment and I was just wondering if anyone had some advice. Ok so this is a kind of complicated situation, so ill make it as clear and concise as possible. so back track 3 years ago-senior year a high school-me and my boyfriend broke up becuase as he and i both agreed altho it was hard, we needed to explore the world and if we really were meant to be together we would be one day and even tho it wold be hard to be apart, ultimately it would be for the best. so we broke up and i moved away for school. we talked off and on my freshmen year and soph year, even saw each other a few times. nothing really came about from it, we were still finding ourselves it seemed and werent quite sure what we wanted, etc. he would say things like he wanted to be with me and i would say things like that to him. but then he started dating a girl and he told me about her and i was a little jealous, but that was immature of me becasue im not there nad who am i to tell him who he can and cannot date-i certianly wouldnt want him telling me that and i was seeing other guys at school. so we talked it out and came to a mututal understanding of each others intentions (we said we'd date other people as long as ultimately it was just for fun/not super serious and that we hoped that one day we'd be able to persue each other when the time and circumstances were better)fast forward to now. so its been a year almost and he and i got into contact again. i mean we never really "stop" being in contact whether its thru email or a phone call every once in a while. but this time when we talked i told him about how im moving back home soon and he told me that he wants to break up with his gf soon because he isnt feeling it and said that "this situation is like saving up for your dream car-right now you are driving the one that you like, enjoy being around, but its not your dream car-its not the one" thats basically how he summed up his rational behind having this g/f now and me. so i mean we were just talking on the phone and he said he just got a house and that he didnt want her to live in it, but since he needs help paying for the house and she wants to live there shes gunna for a bit. tho he said that he doesnt think its going to lasst very long, and that he "seriously is just waiting for me to come home so we can get together". i mean im no dummy and i realize theres a good chance he just wanted his gf to live there so he could get some every nite, and i said that to him point blank like dude just say it-you want her to live with you haha and he still denied it. but w/e idc cuz im not there so it doesnt matter to me. im not jealous cuz i honest to God feel that he trukly does love me and if i were there he would have never dated this other girl. so let him date her, he even said to me that when i made out with another guy erecently that he wasnt mad, as long as im careful with these guys (like dont get knocked up) last time that alsmot happened and i told him and he was like oh let me find that motherf****er and i will beat him up cuz nobody messes with you! and recently i had a break up with this one dude who was psycho and he had my back again.so last week my car wasnt working and i was in the area with some of my friends for a visist and i asked him if hed look at my car and he did anad he spent like over an hour looking at it and called his dad to help him fix it and it was sweet. i had my friend with me and he got us some ice tea and we all hung out for a bit and he was compplimenting me he said i look awesome! and he and i would stare at each other and smimle and it was so nice. i know he still has his gf, so we didnt do anything, but when we were leaving me and him saying bye and he gav eme a big bear hug and kissed my forehead. then each time i went to leave he would grab my hands gently right before my fingers slipped thruogh his all the way and he would lean in again and kiss my forehead and say i dont want you to leave. and i said am i just a booty call and hes like oh God no! if you were when you and your friend showed up i would have been like ehh and not cared. and then i was liek ok well i guess im gunna go and we hugged again and he and i leaned in to each other and he was like can i have a real kiss an we kissed and it was amazing. and i love you slipped out of my mouth and he bear hugged me and said oh baby i still love you too. i was thinking about you all day before your got here and about you period. i miss you and i wish you were down here already moved back. does it sound like he is being for real with me? or not? i live a good few hours away and all so if we wer ecloser im sure wed be dating already. i just basically want to get an opinion on whether he sounds like he is being genuine with me or if he isnt. i truly think/ believe he is, however i dont want to miss something i dont see cuz im in the situation.oh my friend thought he was nice too.THANKSS!!
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reader, LittleHelper16  +, writes (20 November 2008):
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well to me it seems like he loves you, but he wants to sleep around with people too, now please dont' get mad at that because I'm just telling you what I think.
theres jsut one thing I'd like you to think about, him kissing you means hes cheating on this other girl doesn't it? well whats to say that he won't ever cheat on you.... he can love you and still cheat on you, so keep that in mind but for the most part he seems like a very good and guy and I think you two should really make it offical soon if he makes you feel the way you do and he's truely in love with you .
I hope this helped
I wish you both the very best :)
-K
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