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writes:Last week I stayed round my friends in San Fransisco (3 hours away from me) who I had met off the internet 3 years ago, and have always been really flirty and sweet with eachother (we have met up 4 times before) but he's had 2 girlfriends in this period and still flirts with me the same to me. Everytime we meet up we act like we're a couple, hugging, kissing holding hands etc. He invited me for the week so I said yes and drove up.Anyway, I stayed round his for a week. On the first few nights we were snuggling up and kissing on the sofa, and watched a number of movies. He was a gentleman, paid for our Chinese Takeaway, allowed me to get changed for bed first etc. He was cuddling and kissing me in bed, but nothing went any further. He took me to the movies during the week too, held my hand to the movies or had his arm around me and paid for the tickets and popcorn. He did say about going for a meal afterwards but neither of us were hungry so decided to go back home. Over the week I don't think I've ever been kissed or hugged so much in my entire life, it was so nice just to be with him. Although one night we did end up having sex, but speaking to him the next day he said he felt bad and that he liked the idea of waiting to wait so felt guilty, which I thought was sweet. It was nice him having his arms around me just snuggling uip in bed and him calling me his girl and being really sweet. We spoke a lot and had a good laugh, he was the one that always seemed to initatite most things which was nice. He sent me cute texts before I went too, counting down the days, saying sweet things etc.The problem is, now I like him even more than I did before. I think he knows I like him, as Ive basically spelt it out to him before. When we first met he was unsure, and I remember him saying "I wasnt sure if you liked me either" as I was shy about kissing him etc. I really dont know what to do, obviously the distance is a problem, and that he may be joining the army next year, but theres just something about me that doesnt want to ask him whats going on. My friends are like "You may aswell go out". I was devastated when I left last week, I was in tears when I got home.. and now I just really miss him, want to be with him and love him to bits. I just dont know what to do, or even if he does liek me or is using me as his plan B, as he has had girlfriends (single at the moment) but hes such a nice guy.. Does it sound like he geniunely likes me? What are your views on my situation?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 January 2009):
 I'm sorry it's taken so long for your question to be answered. Sometimes there are so many in at the same time, they get overlooked.
So, what do I think? I do think it sounds like he likes you. He also sounds like a very tactile guy who likes physical contact. I guess I'd say that you continue your talks with him, but keep in mind that it is a long distance and he may be looking for someone more local. Don't take that personally, okay?
I would take things one day at a time, be a bit cautious and not hand over my heart just yet. Let him know that you like him, but don't give him the idea that you're going to drop everything for him. Guys don't like clingy, they like self-confident and self-assured. Sometimes holding on too tightly is a guarantee that he'll want out because he's feeling smothered. Slow, easy, and don't tip your hand.
And do keep in mind that he has had girlfriends and he may not want you to know too much about his lovelife. Caution is the key word for me.
Good luck and take care.
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