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writes:Hi, not sure how stupid it sounds or I'm being, but I'm really scared my new boyfriend is going off me, since yesterday everything was going fine, going round his house all the time until sometimes 2.00 in the morning, anyway yesterday after seeing him down the pub he did not invite me round his house saying he wanted an early nite which I understand as he has work, but I left something round his house so I went to get it only to notice he wasn't there, and drove past his ex's house also the mother of his child and he was there. Anyway, I text him this morning and I rang and talked and he seemed okay but he did not mention going round his ex's house, he wasn't there for long I don't think, but why did he not mention it?Also on the phoned I asked what he was doing tonight he said he doesn't know yet instead of asking if I wanted to do anything.I've text he since asking to prank me so I can call him but has not replied or pranked back. Please help I'm sure he's going off me. Also what are the other signs that they are going off you?Does it sound like he's going off me?
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reader, Pinky XxX +, writes (11 March 2008):
 He may be feeling guilty about being with someone else when he has a child and just needs time to think things through it doesn't sound like he has gone off you it sounds a bit like he just wants to spend some time with his child. However, if it carries on for quite a while then yes he maybe having second thoughts about being with you (sorry) and you'll just have to talk things over with him.Good LuckP.S. Pranking means to miss call someone
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Someone needs to tell me what 'pranked' means?!?
BUT my dear it does not sound to cool at the moment. Not that he has given you any reason firmly that he is not into you. However, he obviously has a connection with the ex - which is fine as they have a child. So it is very difficult to know what that connection may be and if it is something to be concerned about.
I would suggest that whilst this is driving you crazy, and you are feeling a little bit threatened and unsure, that you get out and about and try to do something to at least distract you. You will end up sitting by the phone, driving past and being a little bit too obsessed. Easier said that done I know, but you have to let what ever this is or is not, become obvious and out in the open.
If your man is having problems at the moment with his relationship with you, he may not have decided yet, or he may be trying to sort something else out. Let him know your there and when he is ready he can contact you. Tell him maybe that you have felt funny and a little uneasy and will let him be until he lets you know what he would like you to do about that. But don't hang around. Carry on with your life with hope that maybe he is just distracted.
The distance you give him now, will help him find out what and who you are to him in his life. If your constantly worried or attached to him and he feels smothered, he will not make up his mind clearly and decisively. SO give him space. It may be that he is perhaps - perhaps! getting back with the ex. You need to prepare yourself for this possibility but stay away and so you do not feel continually rejected. Get buzy with other things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Well, it certainly sounds to me like something is going on here.. The only person that can give you a real answer here is your boyfriend, so I suggest you ask him directly.
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