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writes:So my g/f (i'm also female) finaly returned the favor, but the first time it was blah.And it has happened like 4 times since then, but it hasn't gotten any better.What am I to do? I don't want to say something and offend her. And I definatly don't want to say something and it make her not do it anymore. So what do I do? I have dropped hints but she dosn't seem to pick them up.Help me one???? Advice, opinions??? Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 I agree dont tell her what she is doing wrong tell her when is right. Afterwards try something like 'I really enjoyed it when you did so and so'. Dont hurt her feelings but dont be afraid to guide her and encourage her x
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (14 May 2008):
 This is what I faced with my ex boyfriend, a complete lack of knowing what to do down there, lol. Well what I eventually did after getting over the- afraid to hurt his feelings- stuff was direct him. First off if you are in a sexual relationship you should be comfortable enough with this person to discuss it. Well anyways, tell her what you like, directly. Not dropping hints. If she was like my boyfriend she may be in the right spot for a sec then move on, tell her to stay there or to do this, whichever you like. It doesn't have to be said in a mean way or like you are saying she sucks, you are helping so you both enjoy sex together. If you are not comfortable in doing that, you can do on her what you want her to do on you and tell her- I want you to do to me what I did to you. Sounds confusing after I read it back but I hope you know what I'm saying. Good luck and hope it gets better for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I find that the best tip for my man when he's performing oral is to really give him a response when he hits the right spot. Your girlfriend will probably focus more on that spot. Tell her 'right there' in a sexy voice.
Worked for me! Let me know if it works out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Do you expect her to read your mind? Jeez! It's not going to get any better unless and until YOU change. Speak up. You can tell her what you want without being insulting. Each of us has a responsibility to leave our partners in better shape than we found them; that is, to make them better lovers.
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