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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I feel petty asking but my gut tells me something is off. I’ve been dating a guy for four weeks. During the first two weeks we saw one another every other day. And the last two weeks he’s been out of town and returning this Saturday. He’s initiated every date, and nearly every conversation (text and phone call) so far. He always makes excuses to talk to me throughout the day. When I let the conversation end naturally, he often reappears with a question or sends a photo sharing what he’s doing. However for the past three days, his communication style suddenly changed. He still says good morning and that’s about it. Every reply is very short and he stopped initiating conversation, and started ending his messages with a period like he’s trying to cut me off. I hate to be one of those girls that analyze a guys’ every message and move but it still makes me wonder. So the day before these three days, he called me and we spoke for an hour. He invited me to join him at his best friend’s girlfriend’s graduation dinner (I’ve hung out with them twice before). I said I couldn’t make it due to my sister’s performance night but I didn’t offer to reschedule a date. However I said I would love to see him, implying that we meet in the afternoon. Anyway since he’s always initiating I decided it would be good for me to do the same, today I asked him to hang out on Sunday. He agreed right away. I understand he could be busy and who knows, maybe he doesn’t think he’s dong anything differently. But I feel like his vibe has changed. Does anyone think his text behavior indicates anything? Losing interest? Or tired of initiating? Just busy? I haven’t had a boyfriend since high school so I think I’m rather out of touch with the modern adult dating world.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 May 2016):
 It sounds like he is still interested, he has agreed to meet up with you and he only asked you out a couple of days ago. The thing is though if he is doing all the running maybe he is starting to feel like it is one sided. You need to make an effort as well, you need to show him that he likes you. Men can be just as needy as women, sometimes more. He needs reassurance that you are interested in him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2016): Your a bit on guard. He senses that and is mostly likely frustrated. I hate to say this but us men are like dogs. When we chase and chase and can't seem to catch what we're chasing...well we just start chasing the next best thing around. So he's probably loosing interest because of your lack of initiation which to you seems like the right thing to do. But too much of something can be over kill. So relax you don't have to have your guard up to super max security. All ya gotta do is play when the ball is in your court. Keep it 50/50 when initiating.
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