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writes:Hi there!I think I've recognised a bit of an issue in how I view men so was wondering if anyone has any advise for me!Leaving university next month, however my boyfriend is staying to do another year. He's going to live with a friend of mine who is insanely attractive to men- Massive boobs, bright eyes, small facial features...you get the jist...My problem is- that try as I might, I cannot trust him because I simply assume that all guys really care about is sex. I am particularity flat chested- so it hits a nerve when he goggles at her boobs anyway... I've been with this guy for nearly 3 years- and love him to bits!! But as soon as I see him talking to/living with someone who I consider to be hot, I immediately think he's going to run away with them. I think this is because I fundamentally believe that all men really care about is sex, big breasts, a pretty face and someone that adores them.Sorry if I sound like a horrendous woman! But I really really want help to get this awful stereotype out of my head! I know its not right- and rude to guys- so please help!! xxx
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (12 May 2016):
 It's not just you that worries, a lot of women would worry! It actually really depends on the type of guy really . . . there's not much else to say.I mean, it could have happen that he runs off with her and it could not . . .
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2016): As a guy I don't blame you for how you feel about us. I don't speak for all men but the majority of us can usually separate emotional and physical intimacy. For example I can sleep with many girls but only truly love one if that makes sense. So while your guy truly loves you he could possible get weak and sleep with your friend without having feelings for her. Now this in no way excuses cheating but is only meant to shed light on how us guys think. Most guys are naturally drawn to those physical features you mentioned but wether you can trust your boyfriend or not depends on how much he loves you and how much you know he will stay loyal to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2016): PS
But please don't act like jealous because of her and her boobs, act like you don't like he lives with another woman together
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2016): Oh dear.. I agree with YW, there is the main question to clarify, if there are going to live WITH EACH OTHER without any other people in the room. You can trust them both etc, but better save your buts and don't provocate the situation which could make you feel unhappy. My best friend lived with her best friend together while her boyfriend lived 20 min away :) it took long (almost 3 years), but she is in a relationship with her best friend at the moment, splitted up with her wonderful boyfriend who didn't care or worry that she lived with one man together. Make conclusions
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (12 May 2016):
 Hold on a second...is he living with her alone as two people, or is she part of a good-size number of people?? Right now, all stereotypes are aside depending on the answer to that question, because if he is going to live with her alone in a dorm as his only roommate, I would have nothing to do with that.
The other issue is your friend. Doesn't matter what she looks like - can you trust HER?? I would never betray a friend by going out with an EX without their okay, much less get with my friend's current boyfriend.
So before I continue with advice, please clarify because that is ALL that matters at this moment...is it a 2-person dorm, or is she one of 5 or 6 or whatever a lot of people do in a multi-student home??
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