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writes:I've been seeing this girl a little while now.We've been on 8 dates, and I think a lot of her - shes great, good looking.I think she likes me - enjoys our time together. We are in touch most days. Shes talks of seeing each other in the future, and has invited me to meet her friends. We have a couple mutual friends, and I've spoken to them and it is clear she likes me.But one thing bugs me. I always initiate hugging or kissing. Not full on kissing, just a peck on the lips. She almost seems surprised when I hug her when we meet. Does this mean she just isn't in to me...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2015): How long is a little while? How old is this "girl," if I may ask? You're a mature man. To refer to a female as a "girl" means she's considerably young.
Perhaps you reach for the hug or kiss suddenly, before she is ready to receive it. That's unlikely, because even friends hug when greeting or parting. What's dating without kissing?
Everything depends on how long you've been seeing her; and whether she sees you in a romantic-way, or only as a friend.
Eight dates spread out over months or weeks?
If she is within your age-group, she may need more time to get used to receiving affection; if there has been a long period without it. You may be getting too "smoochy" too soon for her. She may have old-fashioned ways.
In any case, I recommend that you don't get your hopes up.
Speaking from experience; most people are pretty cozy by the second or third date. After as many as eight dates,
she should be pretty comfortable.
Are you spending a lot of money on these dates? She may be using you for companionship and entertainment purposes.
I'm afraid that she may not be that into you. If she was, she would be expecting hugs and kisses; or she would seem more receptive.
Why don't you ask her if you're coming on too strong? That's how you'll get a direct answer, one way or the other.
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (15 January 2015):
 She sounds shy, and awkward. Based only on what you've written, she does sound into you.
~Sy
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