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writes:Hey im really unsure over this guy. We;ve been friends for years, had our ups and downs but everything pretty good now. I'm really confused though as i think he may want more than friends but doesnt seem to be doing much about it.It started off when we went out one time, I wont bore you too much with the details but yes we were drunk and ended up together, thing was it wasnt like you would just get with someone, he was just cuddling me, holding my hand and not wanting to let go. Once we got back to our home town i thought that was it but we went for a walk and just sat in the field cuddling, and talking, and he was feeling me up abit. At the end of it he said he was sorry and that he would never take advanatage and we agreed to forget it, until an hour later when i arrived home and he text me saying he really enjoyed tonight and wants to do it again.He then came out with a group of us, we'd had afew drinks but nothing much and at this point we hadnt drank anything for about 3 hours, we both knew what we were doing. We sat talking as earlier in the night I'd been upset, I linked his arm cuz i was cold and he gave me a cuddle, as you would as a friend, but it turned into more, we eventually went and sat in his car out of the cold and just started getting off with each other, but it was more lovingly than anything else. We kissed but it was mainly cuddling and touching, thn it developed into abit more, we didnt have sex though. And i even asked him if he was drunk and he said no not particularly, i didnt think he was he clearly knew what we were doing.Since then nothings really happened, when he came back off a night out once he text me n put loads of kisses on texts(which for him isnt normal), then he asked me to meet up with him becasue he couldnt sleep, i initally thought he was wasted, but i met him and suprisngly he wasnt. We just sat talking, nothing happened, we later met up with another mate but i knew nothing could happen if she was there but when i dropped him off at home he said text me if you wanna do something and I will. So the other night i did, just asking in general if he was free the next night or sometime soon, he replied aying he was out with his mate but did i want him to drive back and get me. I left it entriely up to him as i didnt want to interfer but he just stayed for an houir with his mate then came and got me, which i was amazingly shocked at, we went to the pub, obviously not drinking as he was driving. We got on great just talking etc. on the way home he took me to a place to show me where he used to go when he was little and his old school etc, we just went for a drive round after that for afew hours, so i was pretty shocked he didnt just think, oh ive had enough lets go home.Hes also texted me as well not to long ago whilst walking home, again putting kisses on etc, earlier in the night though his mate text me fof his phone just joking with me about a strip club saying i should go join them...and that made me think, how does he know me?Im really confused, i dont wanna come straight out with it and rush and scare him off. Thing is he abit shy, but i wouldnt say hes too shy as he has done stuff with other girls before. I know that stuff doesnt have to happen everytime you see the guy, obviously becuase your not just going to stop off somewhere just to start making out. But with what happened before and the texts it makes me wonder, but could it be just because he had abit to drink, i intially thought that until it happened when he'd hardly drank anything. What could i do? I dont want to do anything if it would turn out badly, do you think he likes me? Thanks
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (20 August 2011):
 O.k. I think that it's very clear that he likes you. And from the making out, touching, etc., he is sexually attracted to you as well. You have to determine if you both are willing to take things to the next level- whether that's going to be intimacy, a relationship, or both. Have a serious conversation with him- and let him know how you feel. Continue to keep an open line of communication with him, and then just take it from there.
Hope this helps! :^)
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