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writes:I really need some advice! My partner, whom I live with, had a big tantrum. He was having trouble with his internet and asked me to call up the provider about it. I used to work for the company and was having a chat with the operator as the systems were slow. My partner got upset for some unknown reason and was yelling at me whilst I was on the phone, as he thought it was taking too long. This humiliated me immensely. To make matters worse, we had a friend staying with us, and we had a fight in front of her. He works away and I'm guessing he went back to work a day early, not sure as he left without saying a word. He has never done this before and I've tried calling but his phone is off or he is not answering. Is my relationship failing? Does he want out or is he just sulking? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mr.Insignificant  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 I think you are doing the right thing! Good for you!
And of course it is all your fault, it certainly couldn't be his! NOT!
Welcome to a brand new day! The sun shines on your face :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi me again
Thank you for your responses. My partner and I have since been in contact. Unfortunately it wasn't the civil mature adult conversation I had hoped for. It consisted mostly of him screaming at me down the phone followed by several messages hurling abuse at me, none of which was to do with what had occurred.
After much thought I don't think I want to be in a relationship like this as I feel I deserve to be treated like, um I don't know, a partner maybe, with love and respect! Neither of these qualities appear to be forthcoming. I expect him to want to resolve this with me but apparently that's not going to happen.
Did I mention that according to him, its ALL MY FAULT?
Any thoughts?
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reader, Mr.Insignificant +, writes (13 May 2009):
Would you leave without saying a word or turn your phone off to avoid his calls? If you did, he would blow a gasket.
He is being a baby and sounds incredibly selfish. He is more than sulking, yes, the relationship is failing, but I don't think it has failed yet.
So where to go from here? Keep trying to call and once you do speak with him, make it very clear to him how it is totally unacceptable for him to humiliate you in front of his friend, to leave without saying a word, and to turn off his phone to avoid speaking with you.
This is his way of controlling you and silencing you. Totally unacceptable and disrespectful.
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