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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi.I've found myself in a kind of FWB situation with a man, originally who was just my 'online friend' for over 2 years. We did not end up meeting until early this year.We grew quite close over this time and arranged to meet. We spoke for a few hours and nothing happened at first.Things did eventually happen, but no actual intercourse on this occasion.I have since seen him a second time, where intercourse took place. I have to admit, I have been feeling emotions towards him since this, and have been fighting with myself to cut ties and move on. Note: I had expressed my liking for him after the first time i met him, not love, but i liked him a lot etc, which i soon regretted, because he just took it as a compliment, and told me he wasn't looking for a relationship. He assured me it was fine and he wanted to remain friends and continue like nothing had changed. He also apologised for giving the wrong impression as i called him up on certain actions/words that led me to believe he liked me back.It's been a fair few months since then and it's been really hard to ignore messages from him, and not to analyze his actions and words, especially when I think subtle hints are being given, i.e pet names being used, he seems to be interested in my daily happenings, calls me every so often, compliments me and seems to confide in me a lot, admits to missing me and wanting to see me again, he shares private matters with me, etc. He has also, to my knowledge, not been seeing any other women, but of course i could be wrong and just taking his word for it on this!My question is this... Do i tell him i just want to be friends, cut out a lot of contact, and never see him in person again, or do i ask him what his intentions are, if any different now? I don't want to lose him as a friend, but perhaps I did as soon as anything physical happened. Thank-you for reading, any useful advice greatly appreciated.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I had a guy do this exact same thing to me and it annoyed me to no end. Told me he did not want a relationship, then proceeded to call and email all the time sharing downright intimate things with me. Even started sexting me, but maintained that he did not want anything serious, so I dumped him. I think you should do the same. Fist of all, why would you have sex with the guy after meeting him for only the second time? That was not a good move on your part. Talking online is not considered dating. Dating in person is considered dating. I would ask him again if he is interested in a serious relationship. If he isn't and you are, you need to cut ties with him.
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