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writes: Who's in love with the guy age 29. we've been together for three year now and we started living together early this year before i got a job. i stated working form april 2005 will i was working that company his boss ask if i'm happy were i was working and i was'nt then he offered me a job wich is fine but the problem is he mention to me one day that maybe he should'nt allow his boss to call me for an interview or to employ me. the other problem is that his first time lover is in town. beleive me they were deeply in love but then she fell pregnate by another man and they broke up , but now he is making contacts with her and when i tell him that i dont fell right about it he told me he is not going to change a thing or not to continue caling her and to me it sounded as if he choose his ex-girlfriend over our relationshippls help
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): I am very similar looking to his ex jackie and he has never had a bad word to say about her.... am I a rewincarnations pf her... Ive even had a boob job to please him just like apparently she did....
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (13 December 2005):
 I agree with you, it does not seem right that he would want to continue to have contact with this girl while in a relationship with you. Perhaps he is feeling anxious because you are going to be employed with his company and is turning to his ex as a way of escaping this feeling. If he is not going to stop communicating with her, knowing that it is causing you to have doubt in your relationship then he probably isn't the kind of person you would want to continue a relationship with. In a relationship it is up to both partners to act in ways that will benefit each other, you want to take a new job to be happier and in turn help out financially, but how is his communicating with an ex going to help things? That is what you need to ask him, if you don't like the answer it is better to get out now than to end up in a marriage with someone not willing to bend when something is important to you.
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reader, Laura1985 +, writes (13 December 2005):
Firstly working with a long term partner is also hard, because no boundary is made between your work an private life, you coudl literally spend 24/7 together, so i dont think his change of mind is a reflection of your relationship, just his concern for anything that could effect it.
With the firt time love, if you apply too much presure to him not to see her this could have the opposite effect. She hurt him in the past and whilst he is able to be friends now this is probably through mutual caring instead of any aspirations to get back with her. My advice is no to worry unless he gives you any reason to which it seems at least to me that he has not given you. The thing to remember is that she is his past and now in the present he is with you, just feel lucky because if she hadnt let him go you wouldnt be with him now. She is really the unlucky one
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