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writes:heres a story. im 24 never been in a single realtionship before. i liked this one guy 2years ago though online chatting. he is from another state (my hometown) while im in another state curently studying. he asked me to be his gf on february. i said yes because i liked him. we started becoming closer through calls. but its not all lovey dovey, we do have our fights. we argue alot. first fight i still remember that he threatedn me that he will kill himself. he will say things like ...hes walking in d middle of nowhere n he is soaking wet with rains. i believed him and i was scared.i was so open with him. i told him A-Z about me. while he did not share much about him. And sometimes i got this feelings that he dont want to hear my problems and only wants me to talk nothing. we finally end this relationship yesterday when his ex contacted me and told me that the 2 of them still together. she told me alot of things which i dont knw about that guy. i thought i know him but turns out i know nothing. the girl told me that the guy will force her into sex. but the guy will always told me that hes not typical guy and he far more matured than hes real aga(he is 21 and im 24). after long xplanation from the girl, i realised i was cheated. but wat i dont understand is y he cheated on me, how could he,,,,he knows me well...n he knows all my fears and one thing that i dont like most is someone played with my trust. i told him many of my dark secrets...that im sure if hes human he'll be sympathyz. i still love him. i dont know y. please tell me wat i should do. when i asked him y he cheated on me...he said he was not sure wether me and him will work out or not thats y he put the other gal on his side while waiting for me to come back. should i even consider him to be my 1st bf?
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reader, mimisoph3  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 i dont understand this.if he forced his gf into sex then why is she back with him.thats a very intresting story.but did u even know him in person.i mean dont trust anyone you dont know.and dont tell anyone your darkest secrets because he might not be honest with you.and i think he played you because it seemed like he didnt say anything about himself and you shouldnt fall for him
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 Hi there...
You are a nice girl away in college and he seems like a big time looser. I think you should get out of this one as soon as you can, even if you feel you love him, sometimes love just is not enough. Like Emivia, I think he is scary.
About telling him your darkest secrets... in time you will learn you don't want some people to know your secrets. In fact, there are some things that are better left to God or a priest or a pastor or someone who is sworn to secrecy by their beliefs. People who know everything about you have the power (you gave them the power) to hurt you.
I had one online long distance relationship about a thousand years ago, and no, it wasn't like the real thing. He lied and I found out about 2 weeks into it, so I don't recommend them! I did, however, meet my husband through the Internet and I am happily married. Secret: don't fall for a guy you've never met, don't allow yourself to do so. If he is nice and whatever cool... after you met him and gone out with him and observed how he is in real life, then you can begin your trust and your relationship!
Best of lucks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): You poor girl.It's always hard when you're cheated on.He's not worth the pain that you feel, you deserve so much better. It sounds like he was just messing with your heart and was never really in the relationship properly (seeing as he never told you anything about himself and then cheated).It sounds like he cheated on his ex too.Are you sure that she is telling you the truth and is not just a really crazy ex? He confurmed that he cheated on you, but not the rest of the things that she said. Is this right?He sounds scary. Do you really want to be with someone who has raped their girl friend? You should try to move on.It is up to you whether you decide you call him your first boy friend or not, but just learn from this bad experience, try not to let people know so much about you if they do not recipicate.
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