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writes:Last nite i stayed round my mates house who i used to like ( still do a little) but he has told me clear that there is no spark there for him, ( we have slept together a few times )before he ound out i liked him Anyway last nite i called him in to talk to him he basically led across me and started chatting nothing intresting just chatting, he was falling asleep but was making marks like touching my boob and stuff like that really, but nothing happened, Anyway he fell asleep at the top end of the bed and i slept down the bottom of the bed with the dog at the top, i was thinking to myself i could live like this lol ( yeah i know thinking to far ahead when nothings ever gonna happen) Anyway during the rest of the nite he woke up and went into his own bed and i was then thinking to myself am i that bad but then just thought he may have just wanted his own bed Is there a possibility that we are getting on better and something may happen as we have been getting on past couple of weeks ??or does he know he can trust me and think of me as a good mate he has called me trouble recently with a wink face so i dont know if hes messing around or just thinking im trouble to :/Any advice
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 What are you getting out of your association with him, apart from sex? If he has told you there's no spark for him, where do you think this can go from here, now that he's let you know he's not really attracted?
Are you hoping that by sleeping with him sometimes it will lead to a deeper, more committed relationship, as opposed to a friendship?
Don't you think you deserve a man who will want to be your best friend, someone who looks out for you, finds you attractive in many ways; appreciates you for who you are and who wants to spend time with you because he enjoys your company?
Give it some thought......
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): I don't think you'll ever be more than a very good friend to him, to be honest. Of course it's nothing you're doing wrong; the spark's either there or it isn't! You chatted, you topped and tailed, he teased you... all things you'd be comfortable enough to do with a trusted mate. You can at least be proud of the fact that he evidently likes you a lot as a person, if not in a romantic way. If a platonic relationship alone isn't enough for you then you may have to start distancing yourself from him a bit for the sake of your heart, but if not, keep building on your friendship and find someone who can reciprocate your feelings to date :) Good luck and take care x
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