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*okiogirl
writes:Hello,I will try to make this as short as possible but I need some external advise because i am very sad and confused.He used to work with me and we always get along very well. During the last three months we become closer and we talk almost everyday. It is difficult to say what his level of interest is but he is flirting and caring, he calls me sweet names and he is always asking to see me. I am supposed to visit him next week (also work related) and he said "i am counting the days", "i am desperate to see you" ... and then i replied that i am counting the days too but it is not sure i can make it as i need to schedule a medical thing and i have to see my doctor tomorrow and it is his call.This was last friday and from then ... nothing.Now i do not know what to think. Sometimes i think that he thinks i am too interested and he got scared or he just lost interest ... This situation makes me feel stupid. If finally i can go what should i do ? Contact him again to make plans ??? It does not sound desperate ?? Am i overreacting ? I am feeling very insecure and i am afraid to do something that can ruin everything because i really like him :)Thank you !
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reader, tokiogirl +, writes (8 June 2010):
tokiogirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies.
I do not know. I thought he was interested, he told me he liked me and he is contacting me all the time. We went out together and I could see he liked me ...
He was worried about this medical stuff and he asked consistently about that and he was reassuring me. I had no complain !!
But now i start to panic and i do not know if he is just waiting until i have a final answer (tomorrow but he does not know when i have the appointment) or if he just changed his mind. I used not to be this way but my last bf gave me this silent treatment and i didn't realized how much this affected my confidence .. This time i made a really fool of myself and first time in my life i was terribly hurt. Now i am too afraid to misunderstand things or get hurt again.
I guess tomorrow i will tell him the answer from my doctor and see his reaction. I do not know if i should text him or call him (to avoid waiting for the answer :) if he is not interested i will know then ..
What do you think ?
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reader, missyxox  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Gosh, this has happened to me before, I know how frustrating it can be. But really, it just sounds like a bit of harmless flirtation between the two of you. Maybe he just likes the banter? I know it's difficult but try not to obsess over it, he'll more than likely get in touch soon.
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