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writes:ok so i have a boyfriend and we went to a party last night and his cousin was there. he is a flirt so basically the whole night he flirted with me. he would even touch my back and caress me. my boyfriend couldnt see. so we were all buzzed or drunk. well my boyfriend was. and when we went back home, i sat in front with the cousin and my boyfriend was half asleep in the back of the car. so its a 2 hour drive it was pitch black outside and we had the music bumping soon the cousin started to hold my hand soon he was grabing my leg then his hand started to go up. he was really turned on but then we were close to home. my bf woke up and he didnt see anything but the cousin was breathing hard and when he got home he texted me saying sorry if i felt uncomfotable but he was horny. so i said, 'oh dont trip' but then he started to say he wanted me, etc. so then today i texted him if he remembers and he said yes that he is sorry. he just wants us to be cool and not awkward so i said its all good but i asked him if he regretted it and he just said "i just feel bad i dont want to make issuse with my cousin(my bf) can we keep this to ourselves, i apreciate our friendship just dont want to make things awkward". so i dont get it does he regret it? what should i do? i like his cousin but he has a way with girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso me and my bf arent doing so good together we have always fought in our relationship and it hasnt stoped.
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reader, elwhy +, writes (15 November 2010):
Definitely tell your boyfriend. Thats why you guys are in a relationship right? to build trust with one another. & Trust me, if you dont tell him now, things will get really ugly if he finds out what happened, and he will freak out at you and his cousin..
And the cousin, STAY AWAY FROM HIM...Don't be friends with him, & best not to keep close to him, he was not even drunk, even if he was horny he should still be able to control himself. He is definitely trying to play you.
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reader, Odds +, writes (15 November 2010):
 He doesn't regret it, he's scared he's going to caught discovered.
What you *should* do is stop this now, it's dangerously close to cheating - the leg thing in the car would be grounds for breakup in my book.
If he has a way with girls, that explains the mutual attraction - girls like whatever (or whoever) other girls like - but you owe it to yourself not to be the kind of girl who'd cheat. I guarantee if you started seeing the cousin, he'd cheat on you, since he obviously has no respect for boundaries or fidelity.
I'd say confess to your boyfriend, or barring that, never do something like this again.
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