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writes:I met a man fairly recently we didnt have sex although of course he wanted to but men have always told me to hold back so did but seesm if you do that you still cant win.The facat he wanted sesx with me does it mean he fancied me or was it jsut becasue there was no one else around at the time? He said he would always keep in touch and would always reply to my e mails but he hasnt. When he ne mailed me he said he didnt hate me he didnt dislike me but there were too may things that were too personal to tell me about-some not so good-in the past. he said he is always a flirt. Ok sos he goes out with other women/girls so why doesnt he want to see me even if it is only for sex I like him but I havent said he has got to like me-surely if he was happy to have sex with me before if the opportunity was there why wont he take it?It seems as if every other woman can have a big slice of him but I cant even have a crumb. Why? he didnt even have the guts to say he didnt want to keep his promise and keep in touch I wish I knew why he hated me so much I am reasonably attractive and we seemed to get on ok. Why does he not jsut want a one off then-I cant force him to see me again after so why not?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers yes having read them I think your right. To be honest if he cant see that I am a nice decent person then its his loss Ok I am no spring chicken but that shouldnt matter. It does seem as if it was jsut a one of sex thing he wanted and as you say a decent man would want to persue me soperhaps as you say he is definitely not the right one
thanks for your help I think I knew it all along but its better hearing it from someone esle to seal it all
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): I am confused by your post. You sound as if you are willing to have a one night stand with this man, and he told you he wanted to have sex with you and you did not take the opportunity and he told you he will be in touch but did not.
You want to know why he hates you so much. First off, he doesn't seem to have a reason to hate you. You ask if he fancied you. In what way on what terms do you mean? He fancied you enough to have sex with you, he does not fancy you enough to pursue you or date you or to stay in touch.
I personally would not spend another minute analyzing this man, men usually go after what they want...unless you told him you were not interested in dating him or anything like that.
Why are you willing to have a one off? You are complaining about getting crumbs.....why would having a one off be any thing more than crumbs? Unless you are willing to sit around and wait for the crumbs and sacrifice your love life over someone who is luke warm at best, then I would get on with having your own life and having your own interests and your man will find you....and it doesn't sound like it will be him....so what, it is his loss, right?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 From your post, it doesn't seem like finding a woman is a problem for him. I guess that he didn't get involved with you because you would have wanted a serious relationship (at least, that's how you sound) and he didn't want one. It doesn't mean anything is the matter with you.
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