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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey!! ok i just want to know what you think of this, for the first time in my life i feel in love with a lad on my course. We are kinda friends but not good friends but all of us as a group han around together so i spend a lot of time with him. Over the past 6 months i developed feelings for him and they grew stronger and stronger and also in this time a lot of sings he liked me were shown. Mainly him string at me a lot and he also used to ask me for help a lot in lessons but then something chnaged. I heard someone in our class ask him something in the library and i'm sure he answered with my name and then the one that asked him the question sort of laughed and he might have gone something like "arrrr" can't reallty remember. Since then i noticed people seemed to ne hinting stuff to me like saying he likes you best and accusing me of liking him. But this is where it gets complicated at the same time maybe afew weeks after that question was asked the whole group started picking on me and generally being nasty. Now the teachers know but its never really stopped it still goes on. So i asked a friend of mne to talk to him aiming to find out if he had feelings for me but just to find out what he thought of me in general he asked what he thought of me and said its because the whole group pick on me and he's ntoiced that he doesn't join in as much(he sometimes laughs along) and he explained how cuz hes religious he will stand by anyone(he does laugh along sometimes) and everything but just willingly said i don't have feelings for her even thought that was not what was being asked. by the way even though the picking on me has ben going on he's still be staring at me a lot and showing signs etc. Now this is where i'm confused cuz my friend says its more than likely he knew that i liked him but then at the same time wouldn't he have stopped the staring and everything if he knew and didn't feel the same(i've seen the converstaion they had by the way so i know everythings thats been said) but also people at college are still hinting a little bit which i have wondered are they doing out of spite but he wouldn't do it. Since he's found out he still does stare at me a bit and things just not as much. But why do i still think theres mroe to this? Surely if he knew he would have stopped the signs and everything? or does he really not have feelings for me? It hurts so much to be around him but i have to do it because i still think theres something more? He did promise not to tell the rest of the group and i trust him although he havent spoken about this in person. But i've also wodnered were the group doing all this and stuff like hinting to wind me up because deep down they kenw i liked him and were just doing it to be cruel and lead me on? Then it brings me back to if he knew surely the signs would ahve stopped? What do you think? Does he have feelings deep down, if so will he ever admit it?? But surely it must have crossed his mind if he just willingly said he didn't have feelings for me? I don't know its just a sensation i get that theres more to it and also when he's around me! Or is that just because i like him so much? Anwyay you get the idea i'm just going round in circles, i'm just so greatful he hasn't brought this up at college! Thanks for any help! What is all this? Reply to this Question
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reader, growing  +, writes (8 May 2008):
 It was all confusing.did you mean that somehow you conveyed your feelings to him and he said he is not into you.rite??but still he stares at you and all that??is this all you mean???
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