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writes:last night me and my bf had our first argument (not bad after 2 months of dating) he meant to meet me after work and after standing outside for 20 mins i rang him and he said he was at work and he forgot to tell me. this upset me so we had a little argument. but a hour later he said he paid his mate £60 to cover his shift as he loves me to much not come and say sorry. he then spent most of the night saying he loves me. is he just saying this because he upset me or do you think he means it.
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reader, Farris +, writes (5 January 2007):
 You ask whether he's just saying sorry because he upset you or because he means it... IT'S BOTH! Why would he say sorry for upsetting you if he didn't care about you? And because he cares about you, he's sorry for hurting you!
Tbh, I think that it was incredibly sweet that he paid his friend to cover him, so he could come and apologise to you.
So long as this kind of thing doesn't become a common occurrence, I wouldn't worry about it.
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reader, Sally R. Cinnamon +, writes (12 December 2006):
 Atarisrocks,
We all make mistakes and we all need forgiveness. Yes, your boyfriend forgot the date, but it's really not worth getting upset about or making a big deal of. Learning to accept when someone says sorry is important. Are you going to make him feel this guilty everytime he makes any error at all in life? Will you always need this much proof he is sorry? He has said sorry... accept this, believe him, trust him, and forget about it.
-Sally
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): Well, right off-hand, I'd say there's a good chance that he means it when he apologized for his slip-up! I mean to say, he was taking a chance leaving work to do so, and giving his friend a hefty 60 pound so he could meet you for a brief while!
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