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writes: A couple of months ago, I started at my dream job. There is a guy who works there who I clicked with immediately (let's call him Will), and felt an instant attraction to. (very rare for me!) A couple of weeks ago, myself, him and another male colleague went clubbing after our Office Xmas meal. Me and Will were dancing together for most of the night, and then it progressed to kissing (inititated by him). The next day I e-mailed him and he replied saying it was just a drunken 1-night thing. This I could just about handle, and we were getting on better than ever, but he is acting as though he really likes me. He was quite upset and became quite moody and withdrawn after I told him I was going out for dinner with a male friend, and barely spoke to me. And then there is the whole very prolonged eye contact thing, the fact he speaks to me all the time and stares at me every time I walk into the room. I'm now feeling quite confused about the whole situation, but daren't broach the subject again. Please help!! I was always told men don't send mixed messages..?!?!!
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (27 December 2005):
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Well from what i gather, he likes you and is unsure as to what he wants and while is processing all of this he doesn't want anyone else to have you.
He wants you to notice that he likes yet at the same time, play with your mind.
Men like these are normally not the type of men to get to attached to, cause they will most likely end up breaking your heart.
tell him how you feel, tell him how he is confusing you, catch him off gard, men normally blab the truth when caught unaware.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2005): I agree with the previous answer. He is sending mixed messages! However, he verbalized that he was not interested. Maybe in his head he's beginning to doubt that, or maybe he's one of those guys that can never make up their minds about what they want. It comes down to this, you are working in a job you love, and the drama surrounding this issue may get in the way of that enjoyment or even your career. Don't wait around for him to make up his mind, or play his game. You already know that when he wants something he'll go for it. Meanwhile, enjoy your work and your social life outside the office.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (26 December 2005):
 Dear, first i must congratulate you on getting your dream job.
I do understand your confusion here. i feel you should allow him to make all the moves. dont broach the subject with him again. This will allow you dictate the direction you want the relationship to go if he does ask you out.
Also, you do have your pride too. He said he was a little drunk and was a one night thing for him so he shouldnt be getting all angry with you for dating another guy. you two seem close from your question for you to send him an email telling you how u felt, so he should be able to open up to u if he felt the same way.
I am not to sure if he is looking for something serious.My own opinion is that until you are sure of what he wants from you, go out with friends for dates and enjoy yourself. Dont dwell on this guy and what he thinks. if he is interested then he will let it out.
Have fun and enjoy yourself u seem like a nice and lively person.
Goodluck.
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