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writes: Hi everyone,I just want an interpreation to a line my boyfriend said when drunk,although I know I shouldn't be paying much attention to it but still!So I'v been dating this gorgeous man for 3 years now and we went to an engagement party last night,my boyfriend gets drunk and then in our conversation he said 'I know a future is what you want and I'm hopelessly in love with you but I don't want a family with you'..I asked him about this when sober he just rubs my face and says 'I love you'..I think he doesn't want a future and not only that he doesn't want to talk about it..!I don't want to hurry as well,but I want to know 'we both are in this for a long run '..how do I bring this up without puTting the added pressure on him?
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (29 April 2013):
This is a tough question but you need to get his view out when he is not drunk.... it could be a thing that he himself doesnt want to face, but for the sake of your relationship I think you need to have an adult conversation and raise the topic when you are both happy and not stressed out. Better to know now where is head is at rather than assuming everything is okay.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): Finding out exactly where you stand is not "putting pressure" on him ... ask him again whether he wants a family with you, and don't let him change the subject this time.
Make sure that you pick the right time to ask: when neither of you is stressed or rushed, and not when you are in bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2013): 'I know a future is what you want and I'm hopelessly in love with you but I don't want a family with you'..
Translation: I want to continue having regular and frequent sex with no commitment and no obligation.
He's willing to say "I love you" for as long as you're willing to sleep with him because he knows that if he comes out and tells you he doesn't want a future with you, then he will no longer be enjoying regular and frequent sex with you.
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