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writes:PLease help! I went on a date with a man that is twice divorced and 50 years old. His first wife cheated on him and the second wife took him for everything financialy. We met the other day for a casual meeting. He is nice and funny. He was with a friend and said I am never getting married again, next time I am doing things totally different. I like my freedom. Now I do not even know if I like him but know I want marriage in my future. Is this something guys say when they get burned? Does he mean it? Please help me to interpret his words? thanks
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (2 February 2010):
I think this guy gave you your answer right there. Especially saying it within earshot of you, that's a huge hint and you should take it. Once a man gets to this age he will probably never change his mind. They get really stubborn and set in their ways. I once dated a 58 year old and he told me this and that there was no such thing as love. But I thought my attention would change him and I wasted a lot of my time trying to bring him back to love. If you are going to date him, do so for just some fun and company but for marriage, you are betting on a losing horse.
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 I think he expressed himself in no vague terms, he doesn't wish to marry again and yes, it seems he has been burnt in the past and that is part of the reason behind this decision, probably the age too. So I don't think he is leaving much to interpretation, it's something that you take or leave it. I know a case where the man lives happily with a new partner, they are committed without marriage. He too has a couple of failed marriages he isn't bitter about. So it's likely that he means it and you have to decide if it is OK for you. All the best.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 February 2010):
 If you want marriage, this guy is not for you. I don't think he is kidding when he says he doesn't want marriage. I can't say that I blame him either. But I do find it kinda trite when a guy assumes all future partners are going to do X,Y,Z because partner in the past did so. I can understand it though.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 February 2010):
Yes, he means it. When a guy gets burned once, maybe he will consider marriage again. But to be burnt twice, and for him to say that, he means it. So now you need to think about whether marriage to him would be that important. If not, then you maybe need to move on.
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