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writes: So there's this boy that I really like, but I'm receiving mixed signals from him, I'd appreciate your opinion on if it seems like he likes me too! I have been friends with this guy for a few years, we have always been reasonably close (because of a mutual activity we attend) but we never really see each other except there because he is the year below me (we go to the same school). A few weeks after I broke up with my boyfriend (this is a few months ago) I saw him when out shopping and we had our first conversation for a while, I then text him later saying it was nice to talk to him etc. Since then we have been texting/on Facebook to each other pretty much every day. I hadn't actually spoken to him in person for a month or so until the other day, we were together alone because our friends happened to not be there (we were at the thing we both go to) and I felt something different between us, not necessarily in a love/flirty way, just like something had changed since we've been texting etc, like we are closer. It was nice to have this time alone to establish that. I text him later asking him if he wanted to go shopping after Christmas, I don't think it seemed too suggestive as it is quite a casual thing (I hope!), but he said that he was already going before that and he wouldn't have any money. I don't know if this was just a polite way of saying no or if he genuinely didn't think anything of it and this is a true reason. I sarcastically sent back a text implying you don't need any money when you've got amazing company (I was joking, I'm not that cocky). I didn't imply it was like a date because I'm nowhere near sure of his feelings, and I didn't want to embarrass myself. I don't know whether he was weirded out by going shopping with a girl or whether his excuse was a true reason. I was thinking he might have worked me out and is just avoiding it because he doesn't like me in that way? What do you think? And should I ask him again later on or just leave it? He also has a few other good female friends and I know he texts them too (I don't know if it is as often as me or not) so I can't really decide if we are texting as friends or not. It's all very confusing! I don't have a great deal of self confidence so I'm just kind of doubting that anyone would like me... Your help and opinions would be greatly appreciated, does it sound like he likes me?
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reader, adoresdior  +, writes (21 December 2011):
you don't have to text him first to show you like him... If your even just replying to him obviously you have interest. And yes you have to put effort... If you guys are seriously "talking" but you guys aren't anything yet. Let him chase you first... It makes guys want you more. The only way to know if he likes you is to stop doing anything. Let him come to you! If your afraid that if you don't text him first he won't talk to you then there's your answer right there
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut if I never text him first how will he know I like him, it seems to be a never ending circle. And I don't like relationships where the guy does everything, I like to make an effort :)
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reader, adoresdior +, writes (20 December 2011):
from what you said it kinda seems like you're the one chasing him and be more of the agressor. Don't ask him to hang out! How will you ever know if he likes you if you're doin all the moves? Don't text him first, don't ask to hang out.. That's HIS Job.. And the only way to know it to stwp back a little... Actions will speak alll
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's easier said than done RAINORFIRE...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm I understand what you're saying, but he's always going on about the particular place we'd be going shopping. I guess it would be a bit girl orientated though, thankyou!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (20 December 2011):
 ask him then you will know
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