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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend got me an expensive gift for our one year. I also made him something meaningful. I told him he didn't have to spend so much so I said i'll return it back to him. He smiled and said yes, once I find the receipt. He even asked if he can repay me by buying me food. He seems happy that he's getting his money back. Does he like me? Why would he not insist on me keeping it? Or getting me something I like?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (18 June 2015):
 By rejecting the gift you insulted him and you also hurt your standing in his eyes.
A man in love will often go a little over the top with a girl he really likes. If he wants to then say thank you.
It is the same with a compliment. If a man offers you a complement then accept it with good grace. To turn around and negate the compliment with a reply such as, "what this rubbishy little dress, I hate it. Only wore it because I had nothing else" is a reply that insults the judgement of the one who offered you a complement.
Your reaction humiliated him and poured scorn on his judgement. You did yourself NO favours at all.
Next time please behave with more grace, more empathy and w whole lot more consideration for the gift giver.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 June 2015):
 Yep you done messed up, girlie!~
Next time HAVE some manners, say thank you for the gift, I love it! and leave it at that.
Now you got HIM thinking that you didn't like what he bought. So he rather get the money back, can't say I blame him.
AND.... for the future, talk to him about you BOTH setting a limit on gifts. THAT way you don't feel like he spend too much or too little.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (17 June 2015):
 I agree with everyone here.
Don't set people up like this. You should have accepted the gift with grace and left it alone.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (17 June 2015):
 Maybe I'm not understanding this correctly but it seems like you may have hurt his feelings. He must have bought you the gift because he wanted to. Perhaps a "thank you" might have just been the correct response. Who knows if he likes you? If someone wanted to return an expensive gift I gave them I would be hurt and confused. What was he supposed to say??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2015): Why were you bothered? Does he constantly lavish you in expensive gifts? Does he have money problems?
I learnt along time ago to shut up and enjoy! If you didn't want him to return it, why say that?
Next time say something like ' I feel bad that it cost so much but its really kind of you, I love it THANKS'
Its kind of offensive to reject gifts ESP if they cost a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2015): What sorta mind games are you playing,girl?
Is NOT ok for him to buy you an expensive present BUT if YOU return it is NOT OK for him to accept that?
WHAT is ok for you exactly?
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (17 June 2015):
 To be honest, he's probably thinking "Why did she reject my gift? I spent a lot of money on that."
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