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Does he like me? Or are we doing things that stop us connecting? Is there hope?

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Question - (11 May 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, *hante_terry writes:

If you recently read my story on sending the wrong signals? About the guy JA who is 18, here is an update...

After about a week and everyone getting involved with me and JA asking if we talked and then him not talking to me because of it.

JA texted and called me again that Friday asking if i wanted to hang out with him and his friend and that i should bring my friend. so we did

That whole night JA and I talked and he finally brought it to my attention that some people have asked him about us. One of the people who asked me about JA, also asked JA if we hung out and told him that i said that i could see him being a really good friend,but i wouldnt date him, but he doesn't know that that person told me about their conversation.

JA responded saying that we were friends for now, and he could see us being good friends or maybe even best friends. and i said i agree.

After having this conversation, we argued a lot about being best friends, considering I never speak to him at school, but he said he would start speaking to me more which he has again.

So we started arguing again about him having millions of best friends and that it wouldn't make a difference if we were best friends or not and now we were enemies

i though he was joking but ever since then he hasnt texted me or called me or anything

So today a week later we were the only ones in the hall and he walked right past me like he couldn't speak, and then i saw him again in the hall way alone and he didn't speak, so i saw him for a 3rd time when he walked past me

i yelled his name and he said Oh hey i didnt see you, and i said yea you cant speak and he said well hey and i said so we arent cool anymore? he said yea we still cool..so i saw him later that day he grabbed my hand and he wanted me to walk with him but i couldnt and he got upset and said alright, and i saw him before they let school out and he smiled at me.

He said hey and was telling me a story about him and he asked me if i wanted to hang with him this week and i told him i couldn't i already have plans and he got upset and stomped away?

Im a little confused because at one point i thought he just wanted stuff from me because he kept saying it but that whole night he never tried anything. And last week he just wanted to talk the whole night he tried to get me to come closer and snuggle with him but i didn't but we still talked and he established that we were just friends and all but when i make plans with other people he gets upset..and on top of that when i talk to his friends which are my friends he stares at me but I don't know if he likes me and lied or if he wants something or if we truely are just friends..I need advice.

Does he like me or not? in my last post i was told that maybe he looking for some fun, but he hasn't ever tried anything and he gets upset when i have other plans or talk to other guys?

Also hes never dated a girl of my race before so could that be a reason why hes not really expressing his feelings to me? Or is it still a possibility that he just wants something from me and then he'll ditch me?

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A female reader, Chante_terry United States +, writes (26 May 2012):

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Chante_terry agony auntWell i haven't exactly seen it myself, but thats because i hadn't really noticed or cared to know him before. i knew who he was and everything and we ran into each other a few times before that and he was completely rude, but now hes different and idk if i should take that chance or not, now all of a sudden he wants to hang around me.. Its not that i have feelins for him im terriorial, i know he likes me so if another girl was to try to get his attention i may get jealous but i dont want to be with him. i dont know, im confused he calls us friends and flirts with other girls but he so sweet to me and always wanting me around him.but never admits it. his friends tell me everything

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (15 May 2012):

aunt honesty agony auntWell have you saw these actions from him with other females? Or is it just other people telling you, because sometimes people like to cause trouble when it comes to these things and make him out to be a player, but if you have saw it with your own eyes and you know he will end up hurting you, then yes it may be for the best that you don't get together, however even trying to be friends with him would be hard, because you already like him as more than a friend, and you can easily get hurt this way as well, so maybe distance between you both is for the best.

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A female reader, Chante_terry United States +, writes (14 May 2012):

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Chante_terry agony auntI do like him somewhat, but the thing is I know how he treats other females. I hear about it all the time. And thats why i could see myself becoming good friends with him but nothing more. I wouldn't mind testing things to see where they would go but at the same time i dont want to get to involved and catch feelings knowing how he is.

An just for an update, we no longer talk period as friends, as anything, he just simply stopped talking to me and i've simply stopped takling to him..

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (12 May 2012):

aunt honesty agony auntFrom reading this post it sounds to me like he likes you more than a friend. I haven't read your other post, but the way he was talking to you I think it is clear that he likes you. He even brought up someone saying that you said you wouldn't date him, he probably done that to see how you would respond and when he didn't hear what he wanted then he decided to ignore you, typical behaviour. If you are interested in him then why not just tell him and see what happens?

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