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female
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30-35,
*enevieve
writes:ther is this guy i have liked so much since one years ago.we met at the park once when he asked for my basketball to play with and he stared at me. when i talk to him he acts really shy and blushews away but that does not happen when he talks to other girls.up to now i still like im for some reason but i'm scred that since there are incoming freshmen to my school it might just end cause he might prefer them better. does he like me. help
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reader, chickpea13 +, writes (12 June 2008):
i also suggest, before you tell him that you like him, clarifying that matter for yourself (by getting to know him better) before you do so! otherwise, you'll lead him on- and if you decide you don't like him as much as you think, then you are only going to hurt his feelings unecessarily when it could've been avoided. caution is important. only convey as much as you feel of your attraction. don't feel you have to over-compensate for fear of competition!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): what from you've described, his behaviour does resemble attraction.
if you're concerned about his shyness - ask yourself these quetions; are you a particularly confident person? (without sounding ridiculous) are you "popular" or highly regarded by many? it might be that you are intimidating (not in a negative way!) but if you are a big personality, some people find it intimidating because they feel unmatched by your confidence and personality - so don't feel too worried about his shying away. the only way you can quell this is by earning his confidence - the only way you can do that is by talking to him more, eventually he will begin to relax, from there you can decide how you feel about him, vice versa, and allow your relationship to coast from there :)
and about the incoming freshmen, unfortunately, there is the possibility that he might find interest in one of them. if you get stuck in there and don't let him forget that you're there, then he most likely won't let his interest drift elsewhere.
if he does, then this only proves his inconsistancy - if he likes you as much as you suspect, but proves to be indecisive and easily swayed/swept off, then you would better off finding someone who is more decisive and consistant. hoooowever, from what you've said, if his liking you is capable of changing his character so much as to make him shy (when usually isn't) then i say he likes you a great deal!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Well, as a guy, I would say, yes, he does like you, When you talk to him, look into his eys, and you will find the answer, if you like him back, then tell him how you fell, if it does not work out, then tell him not to fell weird, if he does not like you, then at least you should still have him as a friend.
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