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writes:I have a guy friend. I met him at the start of the year and we instantly started talking. You could say it was typical fairytale love at first site. I was doing my library duty which I was told to do by the school. He came in, with a big stack of books saying, "miss wants these books taken out for her english class." When I saw him, I fell for him straight away. he looked at me, and his frown turned into a smile. After my duty we talked all lunch time and everyday, he would wait for me in the lirary. We wern't even nerds and we kept going in. (not saying nerds are bad) By the end of that week, I had got his phone number, facebook and email. Once the week was up, it was half term. We still talked during this holiday through text. but then, after this, I found out he had got a girlfriend over this period of time. I was heart broken. This girl didn't even go to this school. I still hung out with him though, and talked, as friends. but his texts did get a little more flirty. loads of kisses and hearts on texts. I mean, not even my own boyfriends did that. In one text when I was texting him when he was feeling down, he said he loved me to pieces and I'm the only one who really understands him. After that situation, he kept asking me to places with him. It was like he was asking me out when he had a girlfriend. Finally at the day of the fair, I said yeah I would go, when his girlfriend was there. I meet her and she was kinda nice, but the complete opisite to him. They didn't hold hands, kiss, anything. When she came, he didn't hug her when he did to me. His girlfriend didn't bring money for rides but he didn't pay for her, when I had run out of money, he gave me more and bought me an ice cream. At the fair I bumpt into one of my friends that I hadn't seen in forever and I kind of ditched him and his girlfriend. Later on that day, I got a text saying "Thanks for ditching me :@" I texted him back saying a long speech on how I didn't ditch him because his girlfriend was with him and I told him it was like he didn't want to spend time with his girlfriend. then he got really upset. He then texted saying sorry. And then he called me. It was so awakward cause we had had a fight, but we finally started talking again. but he keeps asking me out to places. My question is, does he like me even though he has a girlfriend and if so, what the heck should I do? :S
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for the answers, I agree with all that has been said. I'm just gonna make it clear that he hadn't had this girlfriend until after the holidays. When ever he flirted with me, I just treated him as a friend, not as a lover. I never kissed him or touched him. When he texted me i never put kisses on. I'm gonna ditch him. I agree that I have been in the wrong to let it last this long. It's stupid, and not fair on anyone. In the end, someone will get hurt. I'm just going to let him go as I don't wanna a be a third wheele. Their is plenty more fish in the sea. thankyou so much 'van1llabeeen87' most of all, you have shown me how stupid I have been.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2011): He obviously likes you.
If you like him, make a move and tell him to dump his girlfriend. If he doesn't, then stop being his quasi-girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2011): I am no expert but I have passed bu a similar situation happened to me. This guy would always call me and said how much he loved me. His girlfriend was so bad to him but he would always be there. What I did was leave him and stop seeing him. I did not want to intrude in their relationship and I just did want to be the "other girl" that he went to when he needed something. I would leave him even though it might hurt. You can even sit and talk to him about what he really wants but if he keeps you as a side girl and does not want to leave his girlfriend then he does not really love you. Do not fall for him he is just enother boy that is making you feel the way you want to feel.
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reader, van1llabeeen87  +, writes (11 July 2011):
 He didn't tell you he had a girlfriend in the beginning--that's a red flag to me. Do you really want to date a guy that seems to have no regard for his current girlfriend? he will only do the same thing to you. Also, if they are having issues within their relationship (which clearly they are-maybe she's cold to him because he treats her like crap; you probably didn't think about that though because you are only thinking of yourself! Find a single guy and ditch this loser...Honestly, I have to question your morals anyway if you're still talking to this guy knowing that he has a girl...I wouldn't want to be involved with a girl that has no respect for another person's relationship if I was a guy! Whether their relationship is good or not; you and him both are in the wrong and being very disrespectful. If he's unhappy with her then he needs to leave her; NOT cheat on her with you!
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