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writes:Ok so this guy that i like I also suspect that he likes me but i cannot be sure...He is at the same university as me but we don't see each other all that often - maybe once or twice a week in passing. We have had conversations before (before I got all nervous about things) and there is a lot of checking each other out, with big smiles on our faces and he has called me gorgeous before and some other compliments...but recently I always rush to get away first as I feel like I am about to jump out of a plane with my nerves....Anyways so i have gotten myself really nervous that i practically try to avoid him for fear of making a fool of myself in front of him by jumbling up my words, stuttering and being all anxious. This past month or so i have only seen him in passing because as much as I want to see him, i tend to avoid him because I am so afraid of making myself look silly. Literally if I see him in the distance, I will go in the opposite direction. A couple of times when i have seen him I have noticed he gets like a shocked/surprised look on his face - like his eyes go wide all of a sudden. Last time I saw him in the distance in the corridor, i quickly put my head down and took my phone out of my bag and made out I was texting someone else. as I got closer to him i looked up from my phone and he was talking to this guy but he was looking directly at me, whilst still talking, with a shocked/surprised look on his face and we just kind of eyelocked like that for several seconds before he looked away again back to the man he was talking to. So the next time I saw him as I was coming down the hallway I kind of said hello and he said "hello sweetie" (in a quiet voice so no-one else could hear as we were on a busy corridor) and then I carried on walking past. A bit further along the corridor I caught up with his friend and as I'm not nervous around his friend, we walked down the corridor chatting in general. He was lagging a few paces behind, seemed to be listening, then when it got to the class I needed to go in he came up and said to his friend "oh thought I might find you here chatting the girls up" -- I then immediately panicked because I could feel my knees weaken and heart beat quicken and tried to open the door to class to make a hasty escape, but it was locked!!! So I said to him all nervously "can you let me in please" as he had a swipe card to the door and he stood right close to me , face to face (I could smell his aftershave very strongly and see tiny details on his face) and swiped the door behind me and I scarpered inside, legs shaking, heart racing and hands tremoring. he came in after me, talking loudly to himself about he couldn't find a book but I ignored him and went straight up to a person in the class and engaged her in conversation to try and hide my nerves.I realise I am not helping myself but I feel as though I must be making the biggest azz of myself ever. Literally, as soon as I see him my knees turn to jelly, my heart pounds, hands get all shaky and sweaty. This surely isn't normal?Does he like me, even a little bit and if so will he think my behaviour is very strange? How can I calm my nerves enough to talk like we used to... I think I may actually be making him feel on edge when he is talking to me.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 It is normal, very normal. This is what happens when you get a crush, knees go weak, voice shakes, arms tremble. All perfectly normal. It is okay to go shy, most girls do when they get a crush, you just need to practice more being confident. You need to take him down off the pedestal you have him up on. He is not any more special than any of your friends, he is not some god, he is just another class mate, so practice talking to him like one. Smile be polite and say hello to begin with, start slowly and build up the courage to add more to the conversation each day. Bit by bit you will gain more confidence.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 July 2016):
 I think he likes you, but I also think that HE believes you don't like him with all this ridiculous behavior of yours. Keep it up and he WILL move on to another girl, because he will get fed up with the mixed signals.
He is JUST a guy, no need to freak out around him. IF you can talk to his friend YOU can talk to him, honey you are not 12 any more - this behavior of yours has stopped being "cute" years ago.
If you would LIKE to get to know this guy, you need to quit the antics and just talk to him.
If it's hard, that is OK... FAKE confidence till you have it around him.
Keep conversations short and sweet, that way you won't have time for a major freak out. Or give him your number? Maybe you are less... "dramatic" over text and can get the ball of knowing him rolling a little bit.
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