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writes:Hi sorry to bore you with the story but the event of last night have left me seriously confused and quite upset. We went out, me 2 mates(a couple) and a guy that ive liked for ages. Thye have always said he likes me but is to shy, apprantly its obvious. We got there we barely spoke at all. My mate(girl) was just talking to him all the time. She went outside and he started talking to me abit. It was the same in all the pubs he would only talk to her. We went to a club all of us she was constantly flirting with him and all over him which really hurt me but i knew they were messing round + i do it with ehr bf because we;re all good mates. Little bits reminded me of a night me and him were left alone and he started cudd.ing me and playfighting with me but he went alot further with me and didnt stop what he was doing like he did with her, She went for outside and he went with her to talk. She told him she had no interest in him and apprantly he said the same about her so they made it clear it was just abit of fun. He also said to her that he;d love to talk to me but he doesn’t see how he can when I seem to embarrassed to even look at him and turn away.(i dont look at anyone when im speaking to them) But when i do try and talk to him i get one word answers or no effort to continue the convo. Because she was there though he was constantly with her and talking to her. I know bthey'll never get together honestly. But as i noticed he just talks to her normally about all sorts of random stuff, with me he wont. After we left me and him walked back and he started ranting on about something he;d seen and then afterwards he said "how longs it been since we saw each other?" and after that he said lets go sit up here and we sat there just talking about stuff. It was freezing and i wasnt expecting him to even do that. He seemed to want to as he was the one that suggested it but he still wasn’t talking we talked about various things.The not long before we left about 40mins inot the chat he said “you n "the other guy out with us" were doin abit of flirting tonight weren’t you” (which I found proper weird he said that) I said not really more like you and her were and he laughed and said “the joy” (tbh that made it sound like he wasn’t that keen on it and it was just fun) He also said is there anyone at ive met at college that i like then which again I found weird and I said no so then i jsut started tlaking about uni, infact that was the last question he eveer asked or the last topic he brought up. He really didn’t say much then he seemed really quite. We parted with a hug as usual, a pretty good one actually and i told him i didnt fancy the other guy because held said that to the girl that he thought i fancied him and he said yeah don’t matter it aint my life is it(meaning its not his choice who I like) I was also texting him abit jokingly wen i got home.Thing is ehs not like normal guys if someone gives him the attention he will go to whoever is easiest. He will have fun with girls as friendbs but when it got the chase and the fianl thing hes scared of it. he took me home one night and had his hands on ym bum when we hugged and also was holding my hand. he did to much that night for him jsut to be comforting me(which was about 2 months ago)i asked a friend for his opinion because i didnt understand why he asked me about fancying anyone or about me and that other guy and my friend reckons he was abit jealous and wanted to check to see if there was anyone else becaiuse he wants me that much. Alot has happened to make us awkward we were in class together for a long time and basically tormented and torn apart by the rest of the group so we;ve never spoke very easily. I know him very well but theres something stopping us being normal. Do you think he has feelings for me still?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Yes I do but I think it's all going wrong because you are both sending mixed signals. He does because he's shy and you do because you don't look at him when you talk to him.
Screw up your courage look him in the eye and say: "Listen I really like you would you like to take this any further?" If he says no move on and don't give him another thought.
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