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writes:It's taken me a Few moments to figure out how I should ask my question, but the Fact is The question Is just as confusing as the story..... A couple Of months ago I met this guy, I had just gotten out of a relationship Three months prior to the encountor, and haddent fuly recovered from it. I had gotten to the point where I didn't have any interest In dating a man for a while (As I feel so now). This Guy was sweet, caring, as well as someone I could Give a call to anytime of day and he'd answer..... About after a week of us "talking" he asked me to go live with him, I agreed thinking nothing of it. The next day he tells me he got new tires for his car and would be on his way out to get me, My body froze in fear....We got into an argument and I said That i Just didn't feel like i was ready for A relationship, then explained the situation with my ex...... I may have even said something that distroyed the possibility of a future. After that we got into agruments a lot and things just started slipping down the slope. On The Day of March 29 one of my closes freinds passed away and I became devastated as well as locked in a mind state of denial. I sent him a text telling him it was urgent that I talk to him...... Well, he ends up telling me that he is in a relationship leaving my whole world to come crashing down.....For about two months I stopped talking to him and I thought a lot about this girl that he was with.... soon i started to Imagine that he was going to marry her, as well as she would make him cut his hair.... after that I had two dreams that have stuck with me to this day, one involved me making a call to him and explaining that I had stopped doing something for Five months ( at the time it had only been about three to four months) Then I heard him laugh along with a woman who I assumed was the woman he was with...... but this last one got me, I was sitting in a room and suddenly my phone rings, I pick it up and its him.He starts to tell me about the way his girl is treating him, then ask's me a question leaving me to answer with " I can tell you how much of an amazing and special person you are to me". Out of no where he's sitting across the room from me and say's something i couldn't hear...... It's weird how accurate these events have been. When I got out of rehab he told me he was getting married to her, then a few days later I see a picture of him and his hair is cut!!!!! Don't get me wrong, Yes a little part of me thinks she is manipulating him in some way, but another part thinks im crazy.... Then A few day's ago I was down in the main part of the city when I got a startling text. It was him, he said to me that he would alow me to say what i needed to say, but that it wouldn't change his mind. I was shocked. We talked for a few days and he never talked to me the way other people would say he felt, he was still that sweet guy I met the first day. When I finally had the chance to tell him everything I wanted to, I couldnt figure out how to tell him in words. For a while people told me he said he didnt care, that he wanted nothing to do with me and that he thought I was crazy.... yet not once did i hear it from him..... Until the last time we talked which was 3 days ago. I don't know what it is about this guy, but everytime i try to move on from him its like chains are holding down..... like a part of me doesn't want to move on.... but the craziest part is what he said was exactly what I had said when we first started talking, that lead to the down fall.... How do I know If I'm obssesed with this guy or What I think might actually be true??? I lay around a lot and try to figure out what is my dream and what is reality.... have I become so wrapped up In a false dream like world and run away from reality or Have I uncovered Truth?
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reader, SearchingSoul +, writes (7 September 2016):
SearchingSoul is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you I just wish it was simple to move on from him.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (5 September 2016):
 It's not love. You knew him a week. You put Talking in quotes which makes me think it was mostly sexual? You don't get to know a person's personality in a week. They put their best foot forward. That he invited you to live with you after a week of knowing each other screams dangerous to me. I don't think dreams mean anything, personally, they're just a jumble of nonsense in our subconscious but I know people's feelings on dreams are subjective. There's nothing here for you with this guy. He's getting married, he's moved on, and he sounds like a creepy catch. Work on your sobriety and self over other men who could take advantage of you during this time.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 September 2016):
 I had this feeling before. It was just hormones and obsession. He wants nothing to do with you yet he doesn't want you to move on. He was butt hurt that you didn't move in with him after a week of talking. He wanted you to feel the hurt he did when you rejected him at first.
I believe some people have the ability called premonition to perceive the future if they concentrate on one thing very deeply. It doesn't mean he's supposed to be with you and you should fight for the chance to be with him.
You were upset because you had been talking to him and he had been your emotional support and when you needed him one time, you found out your support had been lost.
He is either a charmer, or someone with strong vibes, whatever that means. Someone who manipulates emotional energy so he can achieve what he wants. He stirred up something in you and you find it hard to keep peace. But one thing you should know is, you can't let other people disturb your peace unless you give them permission.
You should let him go and for next time, do not befriend a guy when you are still getting over your ex, thinking that he would be content with just friendship. He was only sweet with an ulterior motive. Very ready to withdraw his sweetness if his mate does not comply to his wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2016): You're not crazy nor obsessed. You're just in love with this guy. If we're talking about being crazy when you know that he's in a relationship, you might have lashed out and if we're talking about being obsessed you might have already did some malicious or evil plan just to get him for yourself but you didn't do all those things. You just didn't do anything.
So, don't listen to other people's words.
Since you already know that he is already in a relationship with a girl and he is happy then be happy for him as well. Try to slowly let him go no matter how it hurts you. There's a saying "It's better to let go than receive the most excruciating pain and assume to nothing." I'm this for you. Don't let this guy cause your downfall. Instead, try to distract yourself like spending your time with your besties and relatives. Forget this guy for he is already happy.
You, on the other hand, deserves happiness as well.
Always remember this, there's a lot of people out there who is willing to love you correctly and truthfully. A guy that will never leave your side and a guy that will understand you.
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