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writes:I've been with my partner for 5 years and living with him for a year and a half. I w ant to get married and start a family and he says he does too. He. Say's we can't get engaged right now as he can't afford an engagement ring, (I don't want something expensive, just something I'll like) but then he spends all his money every month on dvds and games. I love him but this is my dream! Am I wasting my time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): Thank you for your answers, to Marieclaire, My goel isn't to get married, I had never wanted to until I met my partner and then everything in my life just fell together, and I found myself wanting it all! He has said from the start that he wants to marry me, but just never seems to make a move towards doing it, he's perfect in every other way.
To imafreak, You're right, I love him so much that I can wait, it just seems like I could be waiting forever because he never seems to save any money. I'm not going to give our relationship up yet.
To auntiesusie, I don't want to throw away 5 great years over what seems to be my obsession. Our anniversary is coming up and I live in hope.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Someone who spends all their money every month on DVDs and games, is not someone who has their heart set on getting married in the near future. If he wanted to get married, you would have a ring on your finger now. It is that simple, sorry. This might be your 'dream', but maybe, in reality it's not his. You are both probably just at different stages in your life.
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,Every guy is different and I think there is more reason why he is delaying the engagement then just "I can't afford an ring". There are many reason why men don't wanna get married and it's understandable like they're scared if woman changes, commitment issues blah bla blah.But if you love your boyfriend then you should stick with him coz you gotta be patience coz the best things in life are slow and spontaneous! Sometime the time isn't right and he might not be ready like he might say he is but he truly isn't and you don't wanna force anyone into marriage coz it can end in a divorce.Just have a little patience and if you love him you will stick with him and I'm sure you guys will get married in the future but I guess its all about timing really so be optimistic and you will get there!Hope my advice helps!Good luck!Lots of love,Ima FreAk!x
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