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writes:will not having my drivers license in a rural town affect if girls will date me? Due to slow and unmotivated parent still dont have it. Its the root of much of my hesitance to date, does it matter? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso im not blaming my parents, my grandmother and aunt are pissed at my parents because they have constantly drug their feet letting me practice. I have always thought that not driving was a con.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): I suppose it might make it more difficult to see each other, if you was to date someone. But then, there are other ways of keeping in contact and keeping a relationship going. If you are worried that girls won't want to date you simply because you don't have a drivers license...my opinion is that it shouldn't make any difference at all. If a girl is put off because of it, it is her problem. If you both like each other though, then I can't see why it would be a big issue. It wouldn't matter to me in the slightest. x
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (9 February 2010):
 I don't think having a car is the basis of your love life. I understand that you live in a rural community but I am guessing there must be some public transport somewhere or you can get a lift from a friend. I am not saying don't learn to drive but do it for independence and personal achievement, rather than to get girls interested. Saying you are not dating because you don't have a car is just a prop to hide behind...it is like me saying I cannot go to a party because I haven't got a dress to wear! Don't worry, we all hide behind things from time to time but if you want to figure out why you are not meeting girls I suggest looking beyond the motor-problem. I rather suspect you could have the finest sports car in the world and it wouldn't help you if you don't have self confidence and personality to keep a girl interested past the first date. You are still young and sooner or later you will probably move out of your parents home and find your own way in the world. You might move away for education or work reasons and then have the opportunity to meet more people of your own age and build a social network that includes girls to date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Stop blaming your parent and take matters in your own hands, find a small part time jib after school, then get your license.
Or you could start dating girls who have licenses themselves. I don't think having a license in itself is a big issue when it comes to dating, but it will be an issue if the only way you two can meet is by driving to each other. Can't you have your parents drop you off at her place and pick you up then? Or get a bike.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 February 2010):
It will matter if you can't see them. If you can see the girl often enough, and you're both happy, then you should be all right. But clearly if you can't see the girl, you're going to find it more difficult.
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