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writes:I asked a friend from school who I’ve know for many years about a lad who was really strange and asked what his name was, as I remember certain things. he didn’t seem to know if he was gay or not and he can’t think why he came to mine or what the purpose of the visit was. I told my parents I had a experimentation thing with him and can’t remember if this took place or not. because I’ve confessed to my parents about this, I’m worried I’ve turned into a permanent homosexual and this has caused issues with the people I care about. I know this sounds like a daft question to ask and I’d really appreciate an answer to this. I know I’m probably clutching at straws. does god notify all women that I’m gay? by dreams or telepathically? or is it just one of those myths? Reply to this Question
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (21 November 2021):
Thanks for the follow-up OP. Ruminating on the painful memories from the past is a nasty experience and also a futile one but it can be hard to shake. It's actually a form of OCD and can be helped somewhat with therapy. CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) is usually the recommended therapy for OCD and, depending on the area you live in, can be NHS funded for 6-12 weeks. CBT would help you challenge these negative thoughts/beliefs and focus on more positive things. Cos you've got to admit that believing one's sexual orientation can be telepathically transmitted to others is a bit whacky - even to people who do believe in God.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2021): because it happened and it’s something I’m trying hard to forget, and I don’t want to have those kind of thoughts. running through my mind and making me think I’m that way incline. I’m not wasting anyones time on here, I’m simply just trying to establish things. the reason it’s on my mind, is because it is and that is why I’m asking for your advice, as to how to handle it.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (19 November 2021):
Try dating atheists then - God doesn't communicate much with athiest.
But seriously, why is this bothering you so much now? The experience you had with another guy happened when you were a teenager and you're now in your 30s. What has happened recently to make you start ruminating on it now?
Has somebody made a comment to you? Or have you come to the realisation that your experience as a teenager wasn't entirely conseual? Or perhaps you haven't had much luck with women during adulthood and are wandering if this can be the reason? If it's the latter I can reassure you that you that no higher power communicates your sexual orientation to others. And that one same-sex experience does not necessarily make you gay - even if you enjoyed it.
Why don't you follow up and tell us what your real fears are?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2021): Who has been bullying your mind to make you think that every thought and action is publicised?
If you were on a reality T.V. Show and had a gay encounter with another male then the whole world would know, if it wasn't edited out and if people were interested enough to notice.
But you are living a private life.
No one is overly interested in who you know if who you had an experimental thing with anyone.
Most people are far to busy thinking about their own lives to worry about yours.
I suspect you may have been subjected to some bullying behaviour by others and that this has knocked your confidence.
Your private life is private.
God is not a malicious gossip.
God is a living and kind creator of the human race and the world.
You can see God is not trying to push you into a corner when you look at the diversity of the animal kingdom.
And you will find much to marvel at.
Slanderous gossip is nowhere near kindness and no one reads your mind or communicate telepathically with you or anyone else.
Just stick with reality.
The other crazy things people say are just to impress you or frighten you.
God doesn't need to do either.
God would most probably like you to stop worrying so much because it won't change anything and it won't do any good!
Try to be calm, not fearful and stop worrying about sex.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (19 November 2021):
 Ha ha, you really CANNOT be serious!
Of course "God" doesn't notify women of whether you are gay or not. Instead he puts a flashing sign on your forehead which flashed up "I am gay" whenever any woman shows any interest in you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 November 2021):
 I never heard that "myth".
And while I have a fairly decent "gaydar" - I have been wrong a few times too.
No one knows your sexual preference by a glance. And no one is notified of such.
I agree with WiseOwle, this has to be a joke post.
So, OP, stop wasting people's time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2021): http://www.dearcupid.org/question/did-i-paint-myself-into-a-corner.html
Similar question, if not the same OP.
God may expose evil people who intend to do others harm through His divine intervention. He doesn't specifically single-out gay-men, and alert women. Evil is evil, whether gay or straight.
I'm not taking this question seriously, I'll assume you mean it rhetorically. It's a bit ridiculous.
You've come-up with some kind of paranoid notion people can sense that you're gay. Like they have some sort of gay-dar that picks-up on it. If you're effeminate, or a little delicate; sometimes people may suspect. There is no such thing as "gay-dar," but some people look for stereotypical "gay-behavior" as telltale clues. It's nothing more than guessing; and it is neither based on science or religion. It's totally speculative, and stupid-people often hurt people thinking they can tell.
God will sometimes steer "bad-people" away from us for our protection; this is mentioned in the Bible. He's not singling you out, and telling every woman telepathically you're gay.
If you're feeling paranoid, maybe you should seek mental-health counseling.
Only you know if you're 100% homosexual. If you are, you'll be the first to know. Nobody really knows if you're gay, unless you tell them; or he happens to be the guy you've had sex with.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 November 2021):
Well I can't speak for women, but he certainly hasn't told me that anyone is a lesbian
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