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Does evidence on his boxers mean he is cheating?

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Question - (19 November 2012) 6 Answers - (Newest, 19 November 2012)
A female Nigeria age 41-50, *od blessings writes:

I saw dry sperm stain on my hubby boxer amd he toil me when ever he urinates sperm comes out from his body. Am not happy because he has not make love to me for a long time and I feel he is cheating on me.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (19 November 2012):

Honeypie agony auntGuys don't urinate sperm.. unless he suffers from prostatitis or retrograde ejaculation. BOTH means he needs medical attention.

I'm guessing he got aroused and ejaculated in his pants. If you two haven't had sex in a long while it might not take a lot for him to do so.

The "stains" in his boxers are NOT evidence of cheating, but of ejaculation.

Maybe you two need to figure out WHY you are not happy and WHY you two aren't being intimate? BEFORE he decides to cheat?

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (19 November 2012):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntPossible. Also possible - not cleaned up completely after a jerk-off.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States +, writes (19 November 2012):

Fatherly Advice agony auntThe simplest answer is most likely the true one.

He is not making love to you. You are not happy. Together that means there is a problem in your relationship. Whatever is leading to the evidence in his boxers, you two are disconnected at a sexual level. Cheating can be a cause or a symptom of that. You need to know more. Have you suggested therapy to him?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012):

He may have an infection OP, a discharge during urination is possible but he'll have to see a doctor to find out.

Also OP, it could just be that he masturbated and didn't clean up properly afterwards and just threw his boxers on quickly.

There's also the possibility that he precum a lot when aroused and maybe even ejaculates prematurely due to the lack of sex. I have known guys who ejaculate just while cuddling.

OP it's not a definitive sign he's cheating, you have to have more proof, behaviours like being out later than usual, being secretive or a change in sexual pattern.

I wouldn't say his excuse is complete bullshit but it doesn't convince me at all. he should get checked medically if that's happening because it doesn't seem normal.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (19 November 2012):

person12345 agony aunt"when ever he urinates sperm comes out from his body."

That's not even a good lie... That cannot happen. Unless he has some really weird illness, that cannot happen. I would have given him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he was masturbating and embarrassed, but the lie plus your gut feeling makes me think something it probably going on.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2012):

Cheating is possible, but its also possible, if not probable, that he's had a wank to relieve himself as you've not had sex in a while.

I would say though if not having had sex in a while is bothering you why not try and start something with him, have sex.

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