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writes:Does cheating once mean he'll do it again?My husband cheated on me before we got married. We had been dating for 3 months when he cheated on me. The sings were there but I didn't notice until later because I was going through school and working late hours at a resturant. He had been going out with his friends to clubs while I was at work. He met a girl who he ended up cheating on me with about 2 weeks after he met her. It was only a one night thing and there was never an actual relationship between them. He cried and aplogized a million times and I had forgiven him because I couldn't imagine my life without him. He has been in iraq now for the past 2 months and its just recently been bothering me again. He hasn't shown any signs of cheating since then and has been the perfect husband. I don't know what to do..does once a cheater really mean he'll do it again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): if he cheated once before i think that he is capable of doing it again u never really know, he got caught last time which means he will probably act alot wiser the next time he tries to do so again but only u will knoe if he is, if he acts differently, if he comes home earlier or later or even if he leaves the house the way he dresses and smells among other things
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): yes and no. It depends why he cheated on you. Is he immature? It's in his nature? He wasn't in love with you at the time he did it? If you know why he cheated on you, you will know if he is capable of doing it again.
For instance, maybe he wasn't that serious about you at the time he did it. If that's the case, well you know he is serious about you now. So you have nothing to worry about.
But, on the other hand, if he WAS serious about you (you two were exclusive, had exchanged I love you's and all) and he cheated on you, then he is just got poor values, bad judgment and its likely he could do it again.
If a guy REALLY loves you and has good values he won't cheat on you. That's a guarantee. I guess, it's your call.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Hi, no not necessarily. Some people really do change and they can be very sincere. Trust him (as hard as it may be).If you still insecure speak to him and i am sure he would reassure you.It is only naural for you to feel like this after what has happened and it would take some time for you to get over it, but you would.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Everyone makes mistakes babe and they are quite often in the early stages of a relationship when you don't know how things are going to turn out.
Just because he done it once it does not mean he will do it again, and i know alot of people will say once a cheater always a cheater but i think they are generally people that have been hurt in the past and can't move on from that.
If he is a good husband now and there have been no signs, try and move on from that mistake and enjoy your marriage.
Take care.xx.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Hi
No i dont think so.
My uncle Martin was a very good looking young guy, cheated on my aunt, but they got back together & he wouldnt dream of cheating on her now.
People grow up. Its probably because he is away that you are having old feelings resurface.
And thats something you need to talk about with him, but i dont believe the 'saying ..once an anything' to be honest...
C xxxxx
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